Thread: My son may not have friends at school

I would tell you to meet with his teacher and ask how he's interacting throughout the day.
Just like adults, lots of kids just "aren't morning people." Parents are so busy nowadays, and mornings can be a stressful blur for children, not to mention that many parents don't enact a bedtime either. So while your child is well-rested, calm, and happy, the other children could still be tired and cranky.
It just doesn't follow for me that he would want to go to school if he doesn't have friends. Kindergarten was only 15 years ago for me, and I would certainly have fought tooth and nail if I had been lonely there. If your son makes friends other places, he should be able to make friends there. I hope it's just a situational problem for him.
Good luck

This is VERY SERIOUS.
I have always made 'sneak attacks' on my children's
schools to insure that they were not being bullied
that they were not being exposed to whatever I
felt was inappropriate.

My daughter loved school, she had lots of friends.
When she entered High School, her first year,
she only had one good friend, and I was thinking
of taking her out of the school.

However, things turned around for her, and it
was alright, but I spent a lot of time monitoring
to see what the problem was.

You have to make sneak attacks at the school.
She what happens in the class. See if he is
isolated, or has friends. School yards are not
the best microscope. Sometimes kids are
zombies in the yard and wildebeasts in the class.

Spy on the class.

If you see your child isolated...change schools.
Nothing warps a child more than school.

Parents come a far third.

A child spends most of his life in school.

Think about it...
he is sleeping, he is woken for school, he
goes to school for his 'whole day'.

Time is relative, every hour in school seems
like four. If the school experience is unpleasant,
if learning takes a back seat to survival, there
is no sense in your child being in this school.

This is not over reacting, he does not have to learn
how to be in school save if he intends to go to prison.

There is no other place, save Prison, (and to an
extent, the Army) where one's liberty is so constrained.

Go to the school, watch him in his class when he
can't see you. If you see anything you don't like,
move him.

Thanks for your advice. I always try talking to my son about school. he says he has friends but other than that he doesn't want to talk about it. He would much rather talk about what he learned. so i don't push it because I love that he is enthusiastic about learning. My mom thinks I am making too much of it. She says i am overcompensating because i just had twins and I feel guilty because he has had my attention for so long. I just want him to be happy, healthy and not be affected by the ugliness of the world. Too much to ask?

I always dropped in, always was involved in everything,
knew all the teachers, the other students, so that if
I even felt something was wrong I could ask one of
the other kids and get some truth.

You know kids will always say, "Nothing".
But when you speak to a friend of theirs you get
the whole 'nothing.'

Loving to learn is great, he should have a computer
and you should go to sites like Starfall which I
found very useful. There are a few more as
well I send to a friend of mines son. Unfortunately,
Ariel is a year old so can't read, but his dad reads
his mail.

Me working fulltime is the problem. I help and get involved as much as i can but I need my job so i can't be there as much as i would like. I also have 1 year old twins. They were premature so they are sick all the time. I devote attention equally among them as best as i can but I am not sure if i am doing enough for the 5 year old.