I just discovered during a heated arguement, actually 2 things...1. my husband of just 1yr decided 3mos ago that he didn't want to have a baby with me, and 2. that "50% of the reason he married me" was because I told him it would be hard for me to concieve(because of a miscarriage 5yrs ago)and therefore a child wasn't at the top of my to-do list. I guess he interpreted that as "I don't want any kids". Now, when was he going to let me in on the fact that he wanted no more children(we are raising his son, now)?! It would have been nice if he would have discussed that with me in a civil manner rather than yelling it at me and making me feel even worse about the fact that I will never be a mother. And as for the second comment he made, he did apologize, but nonetheless, states that he really felt that way.
His mind is made up...there won't be any more discussion about it...My dilemma is how can I possibly deal with this? My heart is broken and in my throat as I write this now. His reasons are mainly monetary(at least thats the excuse he gives most), but I just don't know. I love him and don't want to leave, but how can I be married to a man I resent?

Sorry I am not the best at advice,but I say do what your heart tells you.

I would tell him that you would atleast like to know that having children is a possiblity and having children someday is something you definatly want. Tell him that he should have mentioned this before you got married because had you known that, YOU WOULDN"T HAVE GONE THROUGHT WITH IT! See how he reacts to that one! Good luck!

He has a son of his own
but that is not yours
you will never feel the same toward your own son.
Plus, what made you think that it is hard to conceive because of one miscarriage that happened in the past?
I had a miscarriage myself, then I had 2 kids and I am planing on the third.
It is your right to be a mother.
and it is OK to change your mind after the marriage .
keep trying with him slowly and gently,
tell him about your feelings
Use (I ..)
( I feel like... )
(I felt hurt when you said ....)
(I would love to see you the father of my child.....)
avoid attacking him
don't use (you)
you said ....
you don't like me to ....
you are selfish....... (even If I feel he is)

Hope things get better soon.
but remember slowly and in a loving way.