Thread: Husband wants no more children

I just discovered during a heated arguement, actually 2 things...1. my husband of just 1yr decided 3mos ago that he didn't want to have a baby with me, and 2. that "50% of the reason he married me" was because I told him it would be hard for me to concieve(because of a miscarriage 5yrs ago)and therefore a child wasn't at the top of my to-do list. I guess he interpreted that as "I don't want any kids". Now, when was he going to let me in on the fact that he wanted no more children(we are raising his son, now)?! It would have been nice if he would have discussed that with me in a civil manner rather than yelling it at me and making me feel even worse about the fact that I will never be a mother. And as for the second comment he made, he did apologize, but nonetheless, states that he really felt that way.
His mind is made up...there won't be any more discussion about it...My dilemma is how can I possibly deal with this? My heart is broken and in my throat as I write this now. His reasons are mainly monetary(at least thats the excuse he gives most), but I just don't know. I love him and don't want to leave, but how can I be married to a man I resent?

I am in the same situation and it makes me really sad. We have been married for a year and a half and he has 2 boys with 2 different women. He told me when we got married that he didn't necessarily want more children but he would never rob a women from her right to have a child and said he would have one with me. We even attended catholic marriage counseling prior to our marriage and he told the priest he was willing and able to have children. Now all of a sudden since he is having all these access problems with his 2 boys he no longer wants children. I said well I don't want a child right now, maybe 3 years from now. He said that he feels pressured and does not know in 3 years if he wants children. I am 30 years old and I love him with all my heart and we have gone through so much in the past year and a half of marriage but I told him this is the make or break deal for me. I am not going to give up having a child for him. I feel that he is selfish and expects me to raise his children with no joy of having my own. His boys will never look at me with all the love and adoration that they look at their mothers with. I will never get the joy of experiencing the first word, dadda or momma. I feel as though my husband tricked me when we married and I cannot stay in a marriage that i feel resentful and lied too. The thing that makes it so hard to leave is that he changes his mind sometimes too and says things like, " Maybe, or someday or if you really persuade me". So it gives me false hope...I just feel so lost. What if I give up all my good child bearing years with him and in the end his final answer is no.