tstic364

I have 3 daughters, a 5 year old and 18 month old twins. My 5 year old and one of the twins are great. The problem is with the other twin. She is so fussy all the time and it seems like nothing makes her happy. (She has been like this since she was about 6 months old, and it seems to get worse every month!) She is fussy almost from the minute she wakes in the morning until she goes to sleep at night. She is getting plenty to eat, and she is getting plenty of sleep. She has a rountine that we follow everyday, and plenty of toys to play with. I am a stay at home mom, and she gets plenty of attention. In fact, she is so fussy that I often feel bad for the other 2 children b/c she takes up so much of my time and gets so much of my attention...

I am really at my wits end! I can't take the crying anymore... I have no family here to help me and my husband works a ton.... She is starting to make my husband and I have tension between us b/c she cries so much... Can someone relate to me? When will this end?? Does anyone have any advice?? I feel like I have tried everything! She has been to the Dr. and nothing is wrong with her...

Thanks in advance to anyone that could shed some light on my situation.

LadyLane

Okay, she's been to the doctor and nothing is wrong with her but what did the doctor say about the fact that she cries non-stop? I can understand babies have colic but she's a toddler now, so it can't be that! Is she especially sensitive to teething? They're basically getting teeth from six months until two years, but even then you get a break every once in a while! Does she ever play? Does she make eye contact with you? Does she interact with her twin and older sister?

It sounds really puzzling. Obviously your other two children are happy. I know you said the doctor checked her but if absolutely nothing makes her happy then it truly sounds to me like she's in pain that she can't communicate to you. Maybe try a neurologist?

Good luck, please let me know.

kaylar

I quote this post because it is very necessary that
people realise that doctors are not the Know It Alls
that we think they are.

A friend of mine almost died because she had the
rare (it's going to be spelled wrong folks) Heterotopic
Pregnancy.

This is where one has a child forming correctly in the
womb, while another is in the fallopian tubes.

It's not easy to diagnoise and her doctor, a very
trusted doctor, did not even think to look in that
direction.

She was rushed to the hospital where she nearly died
until one guy (maybe a future House?) thought of it.

I can list cases where people were misdiagnosed,
and so can you.

Something is wrong with the child. You know it.
Take the child to some other doctor and make
some kind of relationship so that you aren't
docket #2564 but YOU.

C

Sad as it may be, I know of three cases of a missed diagnosis. Probably good doctor's but some reaching too far out of their expertise. One of these calls could have killed my husband...

Dig into this farther....There is something wrong that she cannot tell you...Help her talk....Keep trying until you find the answer......Best of luck, C

tstic364

Thank you everyone for your responses. We got a new look into our situation. She a has a cold most of the time, which the Dr. said can be normal since her older sister is bringing home germs, and then her and her twin pass it back and forth which definetley makes her fussy. The Dr. also told me that they are teething from about 6 months to 2 years and right now she is getting in 4 teeth at once. He also said that some children have really bad pain when they are teething and others have minimal pain... I am guessing she is one that is a little more sensitive to pain. He said that seperation anxiety peaks at 18 months, and it sounds like she is going through that too. He suspects that she has asthma, b/c every time she gets a cold she has some pretty bad respiratory issues. She has inhalers, which help. I am sure too that it is hard to be a twin and have to share everything with her sister. I guess everything combined is making her one grumpy child.

We do have some good days, but they are few and far between. It must pass soon since the weather is getting nicer (maybe she will get fewer colds?), her teeth should be all in soon, and the seperation issue can only get better. Until then we just have to keep doing what we are doing, Love her and cuddle her and let her know that we are here for her.

Thanks again everyone.

tstic364

Oh, a few more things. We think she might be having some GI problems too. She has a lot of gas, so that might be the cause too. We are going to try giving her less milk (maybe she does not tolerate it well?) , and change some other foods until we find out what is bothering her. Gas drops seem to help a little, and so does motrin...

mamalala

I am having the same problem...my daughter is 22 months old and constantly fussy. SHe has her good moments, but most of the time she is so fussy or irritable. SHe barely speaks either. She talks jibberish but says very few actual words. I know this is an older post...have things gotten any better for you?

Chrissy

I was reading your first posting and couldn't help but think of my little niece, sounds a lot like her. Then i got to this posting and couldn't believe how much it sounds like her. My niece has been fussy since the day she was born and it was causing major tension between my brother and his wife. They tried everything and nothing worked. They too discovered she had GI problems and was gassy all the time.

Now i should tell you my family puts a lot of trust in regular doctors and doesn't do a whole lot of natural medicine or chiropractic care. That being said my brother and his wife were at their wits ends. They tried changing her diet also and they even had my niece on antacids and reflux medication and nothing was working. A friend recommended they see a chiropractor. They found one who specialises in babies and she has been going 2-3 times a week for the last month. The difference in my niece is remarkable. She is five months old now and finally she a very happy baby. We saw a difference in her that first first week she went.

If all else fails maybe give it a try. I have been to some of my nieces appointments. This chiropractor does not "crack" anything. She is very gentle and uses mainly light pressure to align things. My niece has never cried at any of the appointments and actually seems to enjoy it (that right there probably tells you there was something wrong).

I have taken my niece for the day to give my sister-in-law a break (she and i are both stay at home moms) and just being with her for the day was difficult. Like i said, it may be worth a try if not for your daughter than maybe just for your own sanity. Hang in there!