Thread: Need advice please, 18 month old is ALWAYS fussy!

Okay, she's been to the doctor and nothing is wrong with her but what did the doctor say about the fact that she cries non-stop? I can understand babies have colic but she's a toddler now, so it can't be that! Is she especially sensitive to teething? They're basically getting teeth from six months until two years, but even then you get a break every once in a while! Does she ever play? Does she make eye contact with you? Does she interact with her twin and older sister?

It sounds really puzzling. Obviously your other two children are happy. I know you said the doctor checked her but if absolutely nothing makes her happy then it truly sounds to me like she's in pain that she can't communicate to you. Maybe try a neurologist?

Good luck, please let me know.

Originally Posted by LadyLane

Okay, she's been to the doctor and nothing is wrong with her but what did the doctor say about the fact that she cries non-stop? I can understand babies have colic but she's a toddler now, so it can't be that! Is she especially sensitive to teething? They're basically getting teeth from six months until two years, but even then you get a break every once in a while! Does she ever play? Does she make eye contact with you? Does she interact with her twin and older sister?

It sounds really puzzling. Obviously your other two children are happy. I know you said the doctor checked her but if absolutely nothing makes her happy then it truly sounds to me like she's in pain that she can't communicate to you. Maybe try a neurologist?

Good luck, please let me know.

I quote this post because it is very necessary that
people realise that doctors are not the Know It Alls
that we think they are.

A friend of mine almost died because she had the
rare (it's going to be spelled wrong folks) Heterotopic
Pregnancy.

This is where one has a child forming correctly in the
womb, while another is in the fallopian tubes.

It's not easy to diagnoise and her doctor, a very
trusted doctor, did not even think to look in that
direction.

She was rushed to the hospital where she nearly died
until one guy (maybe a future House?) thought of it.

I can list cases where people were misdiagnosed,
and so can you.

Something is wrong with the child. You know it.
Take the child to some other doctor and make
some kind of relationship so that you aren't
docket #2564 but YOU.

Sad as it may be, I know of three cases of a missed diagnosis. Probably good doctor's but some reaching too far out of their expertise. One of these calls could have killed my husband...

Dig into this farther....There is something wrong that she cannot tell you...Help her talk....Keep trying until you find the answer......Best of luck, C

Thank you everyone for your responses. We got a new look into our situation. She a has a cold most of the time, which the Dr. said can be normal since her older sister is bringing home germs, and then her and her twin pass it back and forth which definetley makes her fussy. The Dr. also told me that they are teething from about 6 months to 2 years and right now she is getting in 4 teeth at once. He also said that some children have really bad pain when they are teething and others have minimal pain... I am guessing she is one that is a little more sensitive to pain. He said that seperation anxiety peaks at 18 months, and it sounds like she is going through that too. He suspects that she has asthma, b/c every time she gets a cold she has some pretty bad respiratory issues. She has inhalers, which help. I am sure too that it is hard to be a twin and have to share everything with her sister. I guess everything combined is making her one grumpy child.

We do have some good days, but they are few and far between. It must pass soon since the weather is getting nicer (maybe she will get fewer colds?), her teeth should be all in soon, and the seperation issue can only get better. Until then we just have to keep doing what we are doing, Love her and cuddle her and let her know that we are here for her.

Thanks again everyone.

Oh, a few more things. We think she might be having some GI problems too. She has a lot of gas, so that might be the cause too. We are going to try giving her less milk (maybe she does not tolerate it well?) , and change some other foods until we find out what is bothering her. Gas drops seem to help a little, and so does motrin...

I am having the same problem...my daughter is 22 months old and constantly fussy. SHe has her good moments, but most of the time she is so fussy or irritable. SHe barely speaks either. She talks jibberish but says very few actual words. I know this is an older post...have things gotten any better for you?