Well right I know you are all responding with the best intentions.
And I am glad you all care about me!

I deleted all from my mail and so on settings just so I can speak free on here.
My real name isn't even Evilyn so he would not find this site.

I see it more that he has made a one time mistake and went to far.
I think that the blame is all on me I shouldn't have made this public.
I think it hurted his manhood and that started it all.
I think that I'm the source off the problem.

Brings me to another question:
Which make-up is the best to hide my left eye problem?
We have a party that I need to go to and I want to hide the blue part!

And I want to state that my husband is a good man!
Due to my own ity he lost it.
The whole blame is on me.

There is no way, of you seeing this from another side. You have tunnel vision so okay...

But, you have to hide so he doesn't know your writing? Why you can't live your own life?

You have a black eye? So he didn't even hit you in the arm but in your face?

The whole blame is on you? Sorry who ever you are, this is a whole load of ......................... it is NOT your fault... A MAN does not hit a woman, full stop..


Mmmm.... Anyway.

Your thread, so make up.... Use concealer, and wear grey eye shadow.

Yes I believe in one time mistakes and giving a person another chance but being abused is not one of those instances. Odds are if he hit you once he will hit you again.

It hurt his manhood that you started it all? What about him hurting your womanhood claiming that a part of your body disgusts him?

You are not the source of the problem! He is the one with the problem!

A good man does not hit a woman.

How are you because you had a question about your own body?

The blame is not on you. You did not make him raise his hand to you, he made that choice.


As Chandler stated we can only give our advice here and you can take it and do with it as you will.

Make up - Some stores carry a product that is for cover up for things such as tattoos, this may be something that would work.

Ohw my!

I thought I had everything cleared now!
Thanks to your advice I was confident that nobody would notice.

Some friend off mine, well what a friend?
Reported it to the police!
And today I got a home visit from the police involving domestic violence.
Luckily my husband was fishing with some friends.

If he gets this news will hit the fan!

How can I stop the authorities involving in my personal life?

I want to stop all this and want my old life back!

That would also be the best for our 6 month old daughter.

I'm sorry, obviously your talking about the make up, cover up, and what a great friend, why question mark?

Someone loves you enough to be concerned.

What's best for you six month old daughter is for you to wake up and realise that NO MAN HITS A WOMAN.

Sorry, i undertstand as well you want your old life back, but that's gone hasn't it.

You can make as many excuses for your husband for what he did, and further more, your only frightened again of him and what he will do, not how to change it.

Important thing for you to understand is that "you did not do anything wrong this time either", someone else made that decision.

Personally i'm glad but that's not going to help you understand what he did was wrong.

Ensure you are around people when he comes home and finds out what happened today so when you explain it to him, he can not take it out on you.

That would be the most sensible thing to do.

Hi, I would like to introduce myself I am the husband of the lady in question, I have read this thread and cannot stop myself replying to these character smearing acusations.

First of all, when I saw the filth talking in her mallbox I thought sweet mother of jesus, this is just way beyond the common decency. I have to admit hitting her with an empty bottle of vodka was a little overhand, but in all fairness she did deserve it, and thank the lord, she has seen the error of her ways, I dont see the problem as I only punish her when its appropriate.

I know most of you here are single, so you dont understand a real relationship, but one day when you step over the line and your husband puts you back on the path, your look back and realize that I am right.

Maybe if you had a real man you might not be single.

Thank you for your reply.

In short, no one will agree with you.

In short you do not own anyone, and you are correct, an empty bottle of Vodka, that you drank, is abuse, violent and I'm sorry, but i for one are glad that someone decided to tell the police.

And, just for the record, we firstly do not welcome abuse here, or attacks on comments, which you may find that some will find it very, very difficult to refrain themselves, in answering this post.

Secondly, most here are in fact MARRIED, or in a very, very committed relationship, never been hit, and believe in equal relationships, not someone whom feels that he can be GOD over his woman.

I suggest you seek councelling, or never attempt that again, because one day, her friends will ensure you are locked up if you chose to continue.

Best of luck.