I Want To Be Pregnant No Luck Please Help( Advice Anyone???)

**myteddy14me** · 09-02-2008 09:38 PM

Hi♥
My name is Pam. I'm actually new to this website and I guess I just need some answers to my problems without having to consult to a doctor. Maybe someone out there with the same situation can relate to me & can help me out. Well Here it goes it's pretty long ;-[;-):

I have always had a regular menstrual cycle until I had my first Child. At 20 years old I had a baby girl and I was bleeding very very heavily after the birth i remember bleeding for 2 weeks straight . It just seemed like an extremely long heavy period. Then I would get my period and Sometimes it would only be for up to four days but it wouldnt be a normal red color it looked like a brown ugly color. It wouldnt last long though. Natalie was two when I got pregnant with my second child ( my son Jerry). When i found out I was pregnant I was Almost two months . I was still bleeding and that was wierd. Id still get my period so I didnt realize until one day i felt nauseous and I decided to just check. I took a test and sure enough it was Jerry making me feel sick lol. After He was born my period never came again. Ever!! I was happy at first because I hated getting my period lol, Who doesnt't? But then I began to worry. I said OMG what if something is wrong with me. I had different ppl telling me what might be wrong and Thairoids was one guess. I decided to go get checked. It turns out I'm just over weight and stressed out lol so how's that for a Smack of reality?? lmao. Now Natalie is 4 and Jerry is 2yrs. My husband and I want one more baby before their ages are too far apart. He is not the father of my two but is raising them as that. We want one together, It will be his first clild with meand I just feel like I am missing something and My maternal instinct is calling fo my baby as if I know I'm supposed to have another one. I have been trying for months now and still nothing. I have been getting really irregular periods and sometimes i won't even get it at all. And just when i think i might be pregnant because of not getting my period my test still says negative. How am I suppose to know if I am pregnant or not if my period is so weird?? Is something wrong with me? My husband and I are frustrated and need answers. I want this so bad...but then again I also want to be healthy. I'm 225 lbs 5ft 5" and Am on a diet and have been taking care of myself what else can I do??

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 09-02-2008 09:58 PM

Oh dear.

So, honestly, your other thread YOU state that you have a fear of having a child with your husband and you question should I have a child?

I've answered that thread.

But here, your stating that you want one, have been trying for months, still want one, in fact really badly.

Hun, sort out your Marriage problems first before you even attempt to bring a baby into this world that may also not have his dad around.

That's not fair on you and it's not fair on the child..You owe it to both yourself and your newborn to be, to have a strong foundation for that child, not a weak one.

That is your up-most priority in my opinion, having 3 and looking after them if your husband cheats on you, and those children with no Dad living with them? Why would you do it? Sort out how he can be happy in a Marriage, instead of getting bored, with women, searching for another adventure and then have 10 babies.

CW

**myteddy14me** · 09-03-2008 07:45 PM

I do want a child with him. We have been trying and have not been successful. I know that He is my husband and I plan on being with him by his side no matter what his flaws and mistakes sipmly because I also know that He is sincerely a good man. He has a problem with low self-esteem and I know he wasn't completely faithful to me and every other woman he had been with in his path. I guess the true reason why I would risk moving on to have a child with him is because as the time has passed I am the "only" problem know. I Do Not Trust him for certain reasons that we both know now. He has always been good to me and my children And lately he has been doing a lot to change his old ways. He comes home and actually tells me how his day was. He sits with us during dinner which months before we got married he wouldn't even be home for dinner. He'd find excuses to go out and lately he stays home and we will have family time we will play water balloon fight or find activities to do. He has really been doing better. Before I mentioned that he is distant. What I meant was that He will argue with the mother of his child and he wouldn't want to talk to anyone because He'd say "He's not in the mood" . Id feel horrible as you can imagine. He will have issues with something and he won't want to talk about it with me. His explanation for that is that when he confides in me with something I will start to give my opinion about the situation before I let him finish and it turns into an argument. To avoid it he just keeps it to himself until he gets over it. Any who, my point is, I know it isnt such a good Idea to have a baby right now. I kinda learned it the hard way. I really would love to but our marriage situation should be resolved. You are completely right.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 09-03-2008 07:55 PM

No, actually, you are a Woman, a Mother, a Wife "In-love" off course you want a baby with your husband, you just threw me on the other Thread, as you were basically asking should you, then i came over here...

But, the fact is you are/were asking is it right and you have your answer, yes, but just hold back a bit and by the way, "perfume" can change to haha, well you said same scent.

You'll work it out, you seem to be strong and he seems to have emotions...

Don't stress.

Look forward to you introducing the 10 babies in about 2 years time onwards....

And, my ex-husband was like, that, wouldn't let me finish and butt in but then he'd get it wrong cause I hadn't finished the story yet, haha...

We all / they all learn..

That's life.

Have fun with all your new adventures and future child, when that time comes that you know that you are now ready, more than likely that will be when it happens, the Universe works in mysterious ways sometimes.

Non stress and happiness between you both makes more babies, i mean sex, I mean well being...

CW

**myteddy14me** · 09-05-2008 03:24 PM

Youre too funny. I love your humor and your ability to reach out and touch ppl. Thank you for your comments. And yes I know perfume can change hahaha I just meant my body scent. No matter what perfume a woman wears her "body" scent will always remain the same. Perfumes tend to smell differently on eachother skin types. I was told this by a Lady in the mall selling perfume. Who knows if it is actually true but I believe it. My Cousin used to where this sweet perfume called "Design". It smelled so wonderful on her. When I bought it it smelled different on me. Everyone prespires differently. Did I spell that right? lol Any who, I am glad that you agree on the fact that I want a child with him. Thank you. I really am looking foward to our family growing. I actually spoke to him about my fears and feelings towards this subject ever sinse our conversation. I explained to him that this trust factor is destroying my faith in our future possibility of having a happy family and bringing in more children to our life. He was completely understanding. I fell into tears of course because for me it is a touchy subject because I still couldnt believe he could ever want any one else so he reassured me over and over that he loves me and is trying to make me the happiest i have ever been in hopes that one day i won't remember that there was ever a time where he confided in anyone else but me as I am his wife and only true friend. I love him so. Hopefully one day I will be having his child But that will be in Gods hands. TaTa muaz♥

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