Thread: So Alone!

Ok so I am new to this but feel like I need to talk to anyone who may have gone through what I have. I have had the worst month. My daughter was turning 1 and so my husband and I decided to get pregnant again, wanting our kids close in age. I found out with great excitement on father’s day that I was expecting number two! Was so excited to get pregnant again so quickly!

My pregnancy was so different then the first time, I felt so good! NO nausea, heartburn and loads of energy. All of my prenatal appointments were great and I was due in February! Shortly after I found out I was expecting so did a few of my friends. One of my closest friends was due shortly after me, how exciting to be 2nd time parents together!

At 13 ½ weeks I decided to tell the work I was expecting baby number two, I told my work, friends and all of our family. At my ultrasound two days later and (13 ½) weeks pregnant we received the devastating news that our baby had died, they thought around 9 weeks. OMG…not what I was expecting AT ALL! Missed miscarriage they call it…never even heard that term before and miscarriage didn’t even cross my mind. My dreams were shattered in an instant.

I was given my options to miscarry and the D & C was strongly recommended. I had to wait 6 LONG days until they hospital could get me in. It was the most awful 6 days of my life. After the procedure we had to tell everyone what had happened… awful as well.

4 days after my D & C I started to hemorrhage in the middle of the night. I was so scared. I was taken by ambulance to the emergency room where they determined I had retained products. After 3 days in hospital of IV antibiotics I had another D & C.

I am not sure what is worse the miscarriage or trauma of it all. Everyone wants to talk to me, but I feel like nobody will every understand my pain. I am so tired of putting on a fake happy face so people will stop asking my how I am. Am I alone? Has anyone else had a similar experience?

We were told to wait at least two periods to start to try again but I am so scared to even think about pregnancy again.

I had a molar pregancy , and i know how you feel. The doctors had me thinking i was almost 4 mths , i went to get a ultrasound and they could located the baby , i had an empty sac. i had a D&C few days later . Mooy husband ( now my ex) were told to wait 2 years . Good luck to you! i have heard that after the D&C it alot easier for a women to have a better pregancy.