Ok so I am new to this but feel like I need to talk to anyone who may have gone through what I have. I have had the worst month. My daughter was turning 1 and so my husband and I decided to get pregnant again, wanting our kids close in age. I found out with great excitement on father’s day that I was expecting number two! Was so excited to get pregnant again so quickly!

My pregnancy was so different then the first time, I felt so good! NO nausea, heartburn and loads of energy. All of my prenatal appointments were great and I was due in February! Shortly after I found out I was expecting so did a few of my friends. One of my closest friends was due shortly after me, how exciting to be 2nd time parents together!

At 13 ½ weeks I decided to tell the work I was expecting baby number two, I told my work, friends and all of our family. At my ultrasound two days later and (13 ½) weeks pregnant we received the devastating news that our baby had died, they thought around 9 weeks. OMG…not what I was expecting AT ALL! Missed miscarriage they call it…never even heard that term before and miscarriage didn’t even cross my mind. My dreams were shattered in an instant.

I was given my options to miscarry and the D & C was strongly recommended. I had to wait 6 LONG days until they hospital could get me in. It was the most awful 6 days of my life. After the procedure we had to tell everyone what had happened… awful as well.

4 days after my D & C I started to hemorrhage in the middle of the night. I was so scared. I was taken by ambulance to the emergency room where they determined I had retained products. After 3 days in hospital of IV antibiotics I had another D & C.

I am not sure what is worse the miscarriage or trauma of it all. Everyone wants to talk to me, but I feel like nobody will every understand my pain. I am so tired of putting on a fake happy face so people will stop asking my how I am. Am I alone? Has anyone else had a similar experience?

We were told to wait at least two periods to start to try again but I am so scared to even think about pregnancy again.

My husband and I have just recently started trying (a few months) so I have never dealt with this before. I am sorry to hear that this happened to you. A very close friend of mine experienced this as well but at 6 months. She had to wait 5 days. It is very important to remember that this doesn't mean that it is the end of having children. Did the doctors say that everything else is ok? Maybe this happened for a reason...(I know that sounds terrible but maybe it's another way of looking at it. Also, I know it's easy to say but hard to think. I'm not trying to offend you or make it sound like nothing but to possibly help.)
I wish you luck with your future. As for your "fake happy face", do what is necessary for yourself! Tell them that you're dealing with it and that you don't want to talk about it. This is a personal situation that people should respect.
Best Wishes,
Lisa

I had a molar pregancy , and i know how you feel. The doctors had me thinking i was almost 4 mths , i went to get a ultrasound and they could located the baby , i had an empty sac. i had a D&C few days later . Mooy husband ( now my ex) were told to wait 2 years . Good luck to you! i have heard that after the D&C it alot easier for a women to have a better pregancy.