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Talk to him I have to agree with. If you go through abortion you may always ask your selves what if or if I didn’t. There are number of couple like my selves who love to adopt a baby. It something to think about.
So its Wendnesday and my appointments tommorrow morning. this he knows. so I cant pretend for long. Aside from that fact, my appointment has gotten postponded twice now because I went through a program who funds it and they didn't approve our case till after my first inical appointment. This has been a long fristratiing ordeal. However, I have heard that he is flyin to Arizona from California (where we live) this weekend to visit his friend and also my one of my good friends ex boyfriend....our lives are so intertangled its rediculous. (this isnt the best friend he lives with who is my other girlfriends boyfriend...the one who blabbed about the whole situation) Anyway were very closely knit because several of my good girlfriends have dated and or hooked up with several of his good friends. So the ones closest to both of know that me and him were a thing. This must sound so confusing Im going to use fake names to explain the situation...hah
So Me..."Jan" and him "Tony" have been hooking up for 10 months.
"Jan" and "Tony" used to be best friends in high school, and into our freshman year of college...until we first hooked up.
"Jan" is good friends with "Aly" and "Britney"
"Tony" is best friends with "Jeff" and good friends with "Todd"
"Jeff" is "Aly"s boyfriend.
"Aly" was the one who told "Jeff" about me being pregnant, who then told "Tony" and who then freaked out on me and accused me of lieing....for two days after "Aly, Jeff, and Tony" asked me several questions and made me prove it by emailing pictures of the positive tests to "Tony"....
"Tony and Jeff" are also roomates 2 hours up north where my older sister lives and goes to collage, and where I will be living and going to collage in January.
"Tony" has been friends with "Todd" since they were in elementary school.
I have never met "Todd" but I know alot about him because
"Todd" and my good friend "Britney" used to date for a year and a half and broke up recently.
So as you can see we are all closely knit. And its difficult for me to talk to "Tony" about anything without the whole gang knowing.
Ive found the only one I can really trust in this whole thing is "Britney" who I talk to on a daily basis, even know she lives 6 hours south from me where she goes to college.
So this weekend...."Tony" is going to visit "Todd" in Arizona where he goes to school for halloween. And needless to say I am so nervous for that because "Todd" is the only one who doesnt know about me and "Tonys" situation and Im not looking forward to him going out there b/c now I fear many more will find out.
So ive takin it upon myself, with the advice of "Britney" to not call "Tony" or text him at all anymore. And to not even tell him when I get the abortion and when I am no longer pregnant. "Britney" thinks that "Tony" is selfish and that leaving him hanging, would do him good.
........I have considered this, but I find it to be really mean to completly stop talking to him when he trys to contact me because hes going to think I'm ignoring him b/c I wanna have the baby.
needless to say my life is chaotic. and hopefully you got my sitution from my fake name refrences.
oh and one last thing...haha I recently found out my ex best friend lets call her "Biotch" haha who used to have sex with "Tony" when me and "Biotch" were best friends went up north last weekend to visit where "Tony" lives and has been posting on his facebook, and giving me the impression that they saw eachother when she was visiting last weekend. So IM MAD. and dont really care to talk to "tony" anymore. anythoughts?
haha sorry this was so long I just need to vent.
It hard!!!
Talk to him I have to agree with. If you go through abortion you may always ask your selves what if or if I didn’t. There are number of couple like my selves who love to adopt a baby. It something to think about.
Dollface, I hope all goes well tomorrow and that you are safe and healthy. I know this has been a tough ordeal for you. I feel for you.
One thing, (not to sound all naggy and mom-like) but it really sounds like you need a new group of more mature friends to spend your time with. Friends are supposed to be the people that you lean on in times just like this, not people who betray you and stress you out.
I wish you the best. Take care.
well first off, i understand that alot of people are looking to adopt and i thought alot about doing that. However these past few weeks have been bad for me aside from getting pregnant I also got a DUI and a speeding ticket...so my parents arent very happy with me at the moment. me telling them i was also pregnant on top of all the other issues were dealing with right now, was simply not an option. Not only that but the community we both grew up in is very closely knit as well...everyone knows eachothers buisness so not only can i not deal with telling my parents, i cant deal with having the whole community knowing i got pregnant with him....I definatly feel bad about what I had to do today, but sometimes you just dont have a choice.but as far as getting new friends your right....and i have stopped talking to all the people i was talking about especially "tony" the guy i was involved with and got me pregnant. he knew i was getting the proceder done today, and he didnt call me or anything. hes such an ..............I havent talked to him since last friday and I dont plan on talking to him any more, or his best friend and my old friend that spilled the beans. Im only still talking to "britney" my friend who is trustworthy and the most mature. thanks for everyones advice. and now im on to my next problem to fix...my dui.
Last edited by CHANDLERS WISH; 10-31-2008 at 01:42 AM. Reason: no cuss words a*** are allowed...
It's very immature of him to not call you, let alone find a way to be there through this with you and please never speak with him again.
Remember, when he said "keep me up - to - date was just him trying to ensure you were going through with today.
I am so sorry you had to go that alone, that's so un-fair.
Keep in touch with us and let us know how you are doing.
By the way, you can not use cuss words ie) as* without receiving an infraction as it is utilsing words which are banned for a reason. Off course, in this instance you received a DUI, So another infraction at this point probably wouldn't be fair, seeing as you are a valued member of WH...
Don't do it again... lol... please.
CW
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
ya i didnt actually cuss tho wrote stars and hole. so ya....but understood
Originally Posted by Dollface2008
CorrectOnly now you can't do that either ******
So, how are you feeling more importantly? That's a hard thing to go through, sleeping ok?
CW
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
oic k point takin. but im ok...takin it day by day....had some trouble sleeping at first mostly cus its uncomftorble sleeping on my stomach...but that should go away soon. Im jus mostly tryin to move on now...things happened that i cant change. and ive definatly learned my lesson....dont really think he has though, he'll probably continue to have sex with girls without condoms....but i dont really care what he does anymore, hes selfish and never really cared about me. However, this is something we both will always remember and even if we ruined our friendship and any chance we had at talking again, at least I learned who he really is. It's sad but, its reality.
I don't know why some lessons in life appear to be hard ones but we do learn...
I personally, would lose the friendship regardless.. Because "friends" are there until the end, it does not matter of what the situation is, they just are.
This is a person you do not need in your life and one you don't want to remember either in order to move forward.
Hold your head up high and ignore this guy from here.. In my "opinion"....
Glad that you are doing okay...
CW
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
ya ive been ignoring him. havent spoken to him in a week and a half. I know its what needs to be done. And I know hes going to try to talk to me again at some point down the line probably...and maybe one day in the far future I'll be able to...but with thanksgiving approaching hes going to be down in the area for a week visiting family....and I don't know what will come of that. But its just going to be difficult to completly phase him out, seeing as hes been such a big part of my life for like 3 years...as a friend and lover...but its gonna be hard to let go completly seeing as hes on my mind alot. but time mends all.
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