This is a real senario:

What would you do if you were pregnant with a married man who wants to be there when the kid is born; Worse still you are married; you love the married guy;

I would be honest with your husband from this day forward. Honesty is the only way to get through something like this.

Best of luck.

I think you need to give alot of thought to your next move....for every action there is a reaction....you need to figure out what you need to do and how it will affect everyone involved....do you have kids with your husband...does he have kids with his wife....really need more information ....

You're in a really bad situation. If you have the child your marriage will probably end. If you and the guy are planning on being together, this would be a good time to file for divorce (both of you).

I think if I didn't love my husband anymore I would just move on.

I don't think having both of the men in the same room is a good idea.

You made a mistake - we all make mistakes. Will your husband love you enough and value the oath he took to stick it out? You could tell him before or after this baby comes, that is up to you - which is what I would advise, or you could live and die with this secret and just carry on as if the baby is his. My grandmother did the latter and now my mother is doing genetic testing between her siblings to find her real father. My grandmother went to the grave with this secret and although her husband had an idea it was not his, he was a real gentleman and raised my mom as his own.

Whichever way you choose, I would not have the real father present for the birth - what he decides to share or not share with his wife is his business. In any case, if you want to make your marriage work, even if your husband doesn't, get marriage counseling. This is THEE only way you two have a chance. I don't know if you're a religious person at all or have your own personal relationship with the Lord, but the power of prayer can work miracles in any situation or relationship - I only speak from experience. Good luck to you.