Thread: Hi. I am new. Unexpected pregancy.

And one more thing--I guess the most shocking part is that I just feel numb. Is this normal? I don't feel like there is a life inside of me. I just feel...numb. Not happy, not sad. numb and in shock. Is that normal with unexpected pregnancy?

I think feeling numb is okay, especially since you were surprised to find out. Have you thought about what you would like to do? Have you discussed it with your fiance? You are very early in your pregnancy, so you probably dont feel connected because it hasnt been long enough...You said you wanted to try maybe next year? Well if you think about it, your baby wont be due until July 7/2009 roughly. So you have plenty of time to plan if you decide you want to keep it. Work on getting health insurance, and a job so you can save. Im due Feb, so if you need someone to talk to, I can always help. Everyone here is very helpful. It must be nice to know you are indeed fertile? You need to weigh out all of your options, and talk with your fiance and figure out what is best for you. Best of luck!

Thank you MarMar...

I will probably be asking you a lot of questions as I am realizing, I know nothing about what to expect.

My sleep has been bad. I seem to get a feeling of morning sickness at night. Is that typical? My stomach is really upset all night, as if I have food poisoning or something and I toss and turn. Without taking my anxiety medication, I also clench my jaw all night and wake up with my face really hurting. I haven't noticed any anxiety yet but I have been on depression meds for 3 years and I don't know what life will be like without them. I am scared.

I guess I won't know anything until I talk to the doctor on Friday, including whether or not I am really pregnant (though I think with 2 positive tests and the physical stuff, I can assume that I am).

Still no feeling of this being real. Very detached from everything. Scared...completely in the dark about what to do as far as dietary changes, lifestyle changes. Down to 3 cigs a day. I feel so disgusted that I just won't quit. What is wrong with me???? I have never thought I would react this way if I was pregnant--so nonchalant about my health.

Can I start a diary here or could someone tell me where I might start a pregnancy diary to get support and explore my feelings? Thanks.

I am away from all my girlfriend, no new friends in this city. My fiance is incredibly supportive and handling this far better than I am. I just feel so scared.

Can anyone tell me if it is okay to take baths? This has always been very relaxing for me but I feel like I have heard that you cannot sit in hot water when you are pregnant.

Well about the pregnancy diary, Im not too sure where you can start one...but you are more than welcome to talk about your feelings here, as you will get many supportive replies! my email is marly_martinhotmail.com if you ever need someone to chat to If you havent already, I would start taking a prenatal vitamin. Its really hard to be away from all your girlfriends. I am too. I have made a couple pregnant friends in my town luckily, but Im grateful that my fiance is so supportive as well. Let him help you and take care of you because it will definitely take away a lot of stress from you which is really nice. As for morning sickness, I had it from before I knew I was pregnant, up until 18 weeks (which I think is longer than most thank god). But I had it really bad at night as well, and as soon as I woke up. I could suggest sleeping with crackers by the bed so when you wake up nauseous, you could eat a few to help calm your tummy down. Nicotine is highly addictive, and I think its great that you have already cut down to 3. Of course none would be the best, but I dont think it means that you dont care about you or your baby if you havent completely quit yet. I think once you start to feel more connected to the baby, you will be more motivated to quit. Its so early in the pregnancy to feel a strong connection if you never knew it was coming. I think the first time I felt a real connection, was my first ultrasound at 9 weeks. and then my next connection was the first of many kicks starting at 18 weeks. it definitely makes the pregnancy real, and it makes the baby more humanized if you understand what Im saying!

hi, I too recently found out i'm pregnant (6wks). I had my coil removed due to medical problems and myself and my husband considered having another child (we have 2 beautiful daughter aged 9 and 11 yrs) we decided to think about it for a while and then 4 wks after my coil is removed I discover i'm pregnant. At first I was shocked and didn't really believe it but in the last few days its really hit me and i'm really upset about it can't stop crying. Its made me realise how happy I am with the way my life is now and how I don't want it to change by starting all over again. It would only be another few yrs before my youngest will be going to secondary school and I could go back out to work full time. I enjoyed being a stay at home mum, working p/t for a company from home but I also looked forward to the day I could go back full time. I'm so torn by these feelings I just don't know what to do. I am 36yrs old. I am strongly considering not continuing with this pregnancy but am so confused. Has anyone else been in this position.

I am currently on clozapan (klonipan) for anxiety/insomnia. I feel for you. I haven't taken a test but I plan on taking one tomorrow to see if I'm pregnant. Anyways, didn't take my sleeping pills last night just to be on the safe side and I pretty much was up all night and it was driving my hubby nuts! I think that the nausea just made it worse.

When I was pregnant before I'd keep crackers or a snack next to my bed. It seemed my nausea is better when my stomach isn't empty (hence why it's worse at night). Maybe try that. Or eat high protein snacks before bed; I believe that protein takes longer to digest.

Anyways, make sure you call your Dr. who proscribes your medications and talk with them about getting off your pills. Sometimes it's not safe to get off your pills cold turkey; you might need to come off them gradually.

Just a heads up!