hey all... just joined today... needed someone or somewhere to fall apart.
recently found out i am pregnant and when i heard the words: test is positive, i felt confused then my assumptions and worries seemed to explode in me. i began to cry b/c i guess i knew b4 they told me, and then i fell into this fog.
i want kids so badly... i always have. i was once told i may never b able to have one b/c of an illness i had years ago. i guess they were wrong.
and now that i am i know i can not do it. the timing is wrong... all wrong - is that selfish?
i'm in my last year of school, i'm just beginning to see a counsellor to confront and deal with former abusive partners i have had and the damage left on that. i feel like this can't happen right now... but everytime i see a little kid or baby i feel like i am going to lose it.

i don't know what to do, but know already what i am going to do.
i can't tell anyone, never felt so alone in my life.

feel like fog and numb, can't think and can't function

iam so sorry that you fell this way, u might feel this way just b/c u are scared, i was too wen i found out i was expecting my 1st child even though we planned it! i think you need to have a good long think before you make any decisions b/c you might do something that you regret for the rest of you life, a baby is a wonderfull experence maybe just what u need! what about the father is he around? i hope things work out 4 you, youl know what right 4 u! just dont rush into anything goodluck with everything xxx

I know you posted over a month ago, but i stumbled on to your forum and wanted to see how things were going and how you are doing? I also wanted to tell you that children are blessings and if you are waiting to have a baby when the time is right...the turth is the time is never right. Babies change everything, but it is the best change of your life. If you are not expecting to get pregnant it can be scary and natural to feel a little selfiish, but don't let that make you make any rash decisions. You can always finish school, becoming a parent doesn't mean that your life stops existing, it just means that you become very good at time management

Keep talking, let us know how things are going...we are here to help you out

This is going to sound somewhat offensive,
but bear with me.

There is a big difference between a puppy
and a baby. You can get away with a lot
with a puppy, not with a baby.

If you can not take care of this baby now,
if you don't have the emotional stability to
be a mother, you can not have this child.

As a criminal lawyer who has defended boys
very much like Lee Boyd Malvo, boys who
were accidents, who interferred in their mother's
plans, who were often dumped on other relatives,
and grew up as a 'wart'.

My view towards abortion comes from the 17 year
old serial killer whose life is a collection of tragedies.

I don't get them when they're little and cute.
I get them when they are charged for murder.
I get them when they are found living in the street,
I get them when they are cut and infected from a life
of poverty and neglect, and have less humanity than
a scorpion.

Bringing a child into existence is a very big
responsibility and if a woman is not ready,
it is better not to.

The orphanages are nothing one can recommend,
and the foster families are often worse than being
raised by wolves.

If a woman can't help herself, she can't help
any child she brings forth.

This is not the ancient days of villages of people all
willing to participate, these are the days in which one
is pretty much left to her own devices.

The arrival of a baby is something to be planned
and looked forward to, not the product of a broken
condom, a rape, or accident.

I agree with you to a point, there are many unplanned babies that are very loved and very wanted after the fact. I don't think this girl is going to respond to us, but i read from her post that she has always wanted kids, but the time is just not right...not that she is going to be an unwanting mother after she gets used to the idea of having a baby. I am not extreem pro life by any means but coming from a girl who is trying to have a baby and can't it would be so much better to have the baby and give it to a loving family.

I really believe that bad parenting is to blame for any messed up person in society. Even loving caring parents can be terrible parents. I hope this girl reposts and talks about whats going on.

Raising a child is a full time job.
Carrying a child for nine months
takes a lot from the individual.

Because a condom broke is not
a reason to have a baby.

A random act of sex, whether
consenting or not, is not the
reason why a person should
be brought into this world.

If she has this baby, even if
she gives it up, she may have
condemned herself to poverty.