Thread: My Best Friend is Pregnant

I'm 20 and my best friend is also 20 and she just found out last week that she is pregnant. She was originally going to abort the pregnancy and never tell anyone except me. Her reasons were that she has no job, lives with her grandparents, and is not nor has she ever been in a relationship with the father of the baby. I am completly against abortion so I convinced her to talk to her mom and then make her decision. After talking to her family she has decided to keep the baby. She has told the dad and he is ready to step up and take responsibility.

My question is where do I fit in now? I know that it should be completly irrelevent because her life is going to be changed from this point on and it probably seems kind of selfish for me to even ask that but I'm confused. Im an only child and she is the closest thing to a sister I've ever had. And we live ina small town and we dont really get along with anyone but each other and we do everything together and we had all these plans for the future and now none of its possible. So I feel like in a way this is going to change my life too, not nearly as much as hers will be changed, but I know its bound to affect me in some way.

I plan to be there for her in any way possible. And shes already made it known that I'm going to be as involved with the baby as the dad and anyone in her family is. But I'm confused. I'm worried that I won't say or do the right things to help her, or that because shes having to settle down and I am still free to do as I please that we'll grow apart.

Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated.

Just be there for her. Her emotions will be wacky in the upcoming, well...year. Lol. Don't take it personally if she yells at you and be there if she needs to cry. If you want to play a role in her pregnancy you can throw her a baby shower??? Take her on little shopping trips to babies r us (a preggo ladies favorite place) or other places to look at baby things.

It sounds like she doesn't have a lot of money, a children's resale shop would be a good place for her to find used baby gear such as a stroller, car seat, crib, pack n play, swing, bouncer, etc.

I bought everything brand new for my first, and now I'm preggo with my second. This kid will have everything used. LOL! It's not worth the price since they puke all over it anyway!