I'm 21 married and pregnant now what

**msjohnson** · 03-04-2009 02:20 PM

I am 21 years old married and pregnant now what? I am so scared i feel alone at times cause i'm so clueless i dont know how to be a wife or a mother i heard so many stories how hard it is. what makes it so hard at times is i dont have my family by my side, because they dont like my husband.. Please someone help what do I do?

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 03-04-2009 02:33 PM

Do your family know that your pregnant? Do they live near you?

I think that they will be there for you in advice, they are family, staying away from you both as husband and wife, if they don't agree with your choice is because they don't want to see him.

I am sure, that seeing you and the baby and helping you is a completely different matter.

Is he supportive? Or will he expect you to bring the baby up on your own, whilst a baby, ie) get up every time to feed, change nappies, rock him/her to sleep, have you discussed that with him, that you would need a hand?

CW

**msjohnson** · 03-04-2009 02:45 PM

yeah they stay close to me and my husband, it's just me and my mother never had a good relationship. She never did like my husband even before we got married. I have always been pretty much on my own any way but it feels like now I need my family. My husband is a good man he is like any other man, he helps me out a lot. Anything I need he is right there. He is my husband and my best friend he will be a wonderful father. Thanx for your advice... Sometimes u need someone to talk to.

**shannon702** · 03-07-2009 03:31 PM

wow girl your story was almost the same as mine. i got married at 18 and at 20 i became pregnant and no one likes my husband. it will be hard in the beginning but you just gotta weigh it out. i didnt see my mother because she lived in a dfferent state and my dad didnt like my husband. i felt very much alone just like you. i to did not know how to be a mother or a wife. you just gotta do what you can. take care of your baby and take care of your husband. you dont need your family all you need is your husband to help suport you and to help you out with the baby. all you can do is try your hardest to be the best mom and wife. it will be hard at first but its just a learning experience...you will do a great job it comes natural.

**florencenightingale** · 03-08-2009 03:20 PM

I'm 21 and pregnant with my 2nd child. I'm also married. My family supports us (emotionally) but we're on our own and fine. My husband is a firefighter/paramedic (the pay sucks) and I stay at home with our 20 month old. We own a beautiful home in a Houston suburb.

Also, my mom died 4 years ago so I haven't had her AT ALL through my own motherhood experience. It's not always a walk in the park. Marriage takes work and raising a child is the most rewarding and most challenging task you'll ever take on in your life. But for the first time in my life I feel as though I'm doing something with my life.

You will do fine. Every mom is worried during their pregnancy about being a good mother, providing for their children, making time for the husband, and the housework????? Well that's going down the drain anyway!

Good luck to you hun. Just know that it has been done and it can be done. There will always be challenges along the way, but you can do it. Go forward with a smile.

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