So i started my period yesterday and every month it gets harder and harder to stay positive about our fertility. I know that it can take up to year to get pregnant if you are healthy, but this sucks. We decided to start trying over 4 months ago and when you want it so bad it makes it hard to enjoy the process.

It is so easy to tell other women to be positive, relax and enjoy (i read everything i can get my hands on dealing with this subject so i feel like an expert) However, i feel like a hypocrite at the same time because i can't settle down and take my own advise.

Does anyone have any suggestions that would help me relax and enjoy baby making time

girl I am in the same boat you are. I would like to start having a family very much so with my husband but we have had two miscarriages and its rough. The fear of getting pregnant again; will I actually have it this time? All those thoughts run through my head and I am instantly scared. But we continue to try anyway. We have the mind frame that if it happens it happens. I always try something sexy or romantic during thos few days you are extremly furtile. I read one woman say you are fertile 14-16 days after the 1st day of your period so I am going with that. I will always plan a weekend get away or something sexy for me and the hubby. But I always try and relax. If you stress yourself out about it, you are going to be stressed during the pregnancy. After sex I usually try and relax and lay there for a little while. I don't get up right away. I try to take a lot of baths during the month. Don't know why but I like to stay clean so if I am pregnant everything is awesome up there. I usually just try and live my everyday life. When you really want to get pregnant, you won't and then when you least expect it or stop trying, you will get pregnant. Your emotions are putting so much stress on your nerves that your body is probably just not gettin it. SO RELAX and know that someday you'll be a mommy. Just right now you need to calm down, relax and focus on each others love! Good luck!

Thanks for the advise. It alwasy helps knowing that I am not the only one trying to relax and stay positive. I feel it takes others support always helps the spirit.

I just want to give you some hope. My husband and I were trying as rigorous as your are now a few months ago. At Christmas we decided to stop trying and just focus on our marriage. We got pregnant shortly after. We just found out yesterday we are pregnant! So, see darling. Just relax baby girl. I am sure everything is going to be ok.

hey sweety try these. My sister said she took them like after 2 or 3 years of trying to get pregnant with my niece. She said like a month later after taking them she was pregnant. Then again she worried alot and stressed alot and that can mess up your hormones. So I think if those worked for her they will work for you!


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Thanks for thinking of me, it really means a lot. I will look into this and let you know if I try it How is your pregnancy coming along?