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Try wine grape seeds. "Polyphenols" in the seeds are supposed to help you with your libido. Not expensive, but this is the only source I know. Perhaps you also talk to your physician. As far as I know,
there are no side affects. Good Luck !
No sex drive :(
So since about the 10th week of pregnancy my sex drive has completely GONE! I have NO desire to have sex or do anything sexuallyThe hubby understands, but sometimes he gets so horny he rubs himsef on me until I give in. I feel so bad for rejecting his advances, as he is used to me hopping on ANY chance I got. Last year, I was the one who was so horny I couldn't sleep if I didn't have sex and he had next to no sex drive.
I don't know what to do...I don't want to have sex or do anyting sexual at this time, but it's not fair to cut him off completely. It also seems like he is horny EVERYDAY even just laying next to me makes him horny. I get so frustrated when he doesn't take no for an answer...but he can't help it, he's human. I bought him a 4 disc porn DVD set and tingly lube for himself, but he wants the real thing...can't blame him.
I just don't know what to do...I think it could be hormones, but I have been feeling sick since day one of my pregnancy and working like a slave for overnight cleaning so I am no mood at the end of the day or when I wake up. But I do it for him because I love him and I don't want pregnancy to be a bad experience for him.
Is there a way to overcome this feeling? will it end? I hope so.
/vent
"I might be a little young, but honey I ain't naive"
"If it ain't an APBT, it's just a dog"
natural remedy!
Try wine grape seeds. "Polyphenols" in the seeds are supposed to help you with your libido. Not expensive, but this is the only source I know. Perhaps you also talk to your physician. As far as I know,
there are no side affects. Good Luck !
Last edited by WildChild; 08-21-2009 at 07:45 AM. Reason: removed outbound link
How far along are you now?
The reason i ask is that the first few months of my pregnancy i was sick as a dog and couldn't even think about sex let alone do it! But later in my pregnancy i was horny ALL THE TIME!! it was so annoying in the end!
I think it's just all the hormones, you can't help that. You say it's not fair on your hubby, and i understand you feel bad. But seriously, look at all the changes your body is going through! You need to take it easy, think of yourself and your baby first, then worry about the sexI hope it gets better for you!
Ok first off stop stressing...EVERY woman some time in their pregnancy feels 3 ways about their SO's....
1. You wake up in the middle of the night and think to yourself...I could do it, I can really do it and get away with it, if I just take this pillow and put it over his head ......
2. I don't want him to touch me, please Lord why can't he just leave me alone...why...doesn't he understand (bllllllllaaaaaaahhhhhh- thats the throw up sound)
3. That is the sexiest man I have ever seen in my life...thank you...thank you so much for being with me (mwah-thats the kissing sound)
It might not go exactly in that order (don't do like I did and actually put the pillow over his head..please...they will never forgive you! No matter how much you apologize and blame it on hormones)
Ok..if you don't want to have sex with him have you tried jerking him off? I would also close my thighs and let him rub his pepe in between them while I played with the tip...the biggest thing you have to realize is this to shall pass.
PLease have a convo with him, explain exactly how you feel and that this to shall pass. Let him know you want to work with him but right now you need this time because you are tired, not used to being pregnant and trying to balance all of the emotions you are experiencing right now. Let him know that things will be back to normal and beyond very soon but right now you have to be comfortable with yourself and you need rest!
If that doesn't work buy him a blow up doll
Everything I'm not makes me Everything I am
I actually laughed out loud at that!! Best comment of the dayOriginally Posted by Ahryin
LOL, thanks I aim to please you know a smile goes a long way! You guys make me smile all the time
Everything I'm not makes me Everything I am
Your body is going through so many amazing changes and your hormones are at completely different levels. Communicate, share what you are experiencing, make sure he's there for the ultra sound- hearing that heartbeat can be a life altering experience for a man. You are living with this baby, it's not quite so "real" for him. This will help him be more connected to what you are dealing with.
BUT you don't want to lose the connection to the sexy side of you. In many cultures (mostly ancient) a pregnant woman was a sex symbol. The old beliefs revolved on the need for fertility of the earth, creatures and people. It was celebrated. We are still recovering from a bizzare time of hiding it and pretending babies just appear, magically. Think about it, pregnancy is the ultimate proof that you are a sexual woman! Typically once you get past the first trimester, your body settles down and you are more comfortable. Focus on the sensual, not only taking care of yourself, but also caring for yourself. You should have fresh flowers, take walks, take extra care of your skin. Get some less toxic products for yourself. For example you can get formaldehyde and toluene free nail products, soy based polish remover, organic, paraben free cosmetics - these will all be better for you and your baby and keep you feeling attractive. We are so looks oriented and pregnancy takes your body outside the current accepted range of "sexy". Knowing that you can be healthy, pregnant and sexy, will probably help your interest in sex.
We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Mudoch, British writer
1. Take a step back and be greatful to have a man that desires you so strongly that he is not dettered by your pregnancy in wanting to have you so badly! Smile to yourself and know you still got it
2. Let him help you with some of that cleaning... take it is for a day or two. Hint at the fact that your energy is drained when you clean all day perhaps he will step in and let you rest on the nights he wants some action (win-win situation!)
3. Please him in alternative ways, oral, manual , giving him a live peep show while he masturbates or talking dirty when he does it. Maybe have him go downstairs call him on his cell and be is 900 sex line
4. Your sex drive will wane and wean during pregnancy. There will be times you don't want any action at all and times you are dragging him upstairs my the scruff of his neck to give you some lovin'. It comes and goes and usually the extremes are severe, you either want it so badly or despise it entirely.
5. It sounds like you are a good supportive and thoughtful gf/wife. Thinking ahead to not wanting pregnancy to rub him the wrong way is a good thing. But also, you are carrying a life form in your body for the first time - hormones are abound, things are changing within you and he needs to also understand be supportive of your experience.
Scars remind us of where we've been...they don't have to dictate where we're going.
A few weeks into my 2nd trimester is when my sex drive picked up during both my pregnancies. But what I also realized was how sexy a lot of husbands found their pregnant wives to be. I had always thought, sweet jesus, how could anybody look at this (my pregnant body) and think of sex! We were talking with some couples one night and the consensus was the guys found their pregnant wives sexy and were extremely grateful for what the wives for enduring, etc. Knowing that, it was like, hey, even though I may not feel sexy, DH thinks I am. It made me feel better!
Friendship Prayer
May the fleas of a thousand camels infest the crotch of the person who screws up your day and may their arms be too short to scratch.
Amen
Whoever said anything was possible obviously never tried slamming a revolving door.
Okay good I thought I was just weird! But since that post now I feel 50/50 with my sex drive. Some days I wake him from his sleep just to get some action and some days I growl if he even thinks of touching me "that way".
It all depends on how tired I am, but sometimes I like to get a little action in before bed so it helps me sleep...and some days I fall asleep before I can even have that thought lol
Well, for the past 2 weeks he's had a lung infection, and missed 5 days of work...I loved playing good nurse/ bad nurse with him heheI still can't kiss him
Ahryin,
It's funny you mention in #1 about putting a pillow over his head while he sleeps lol But I felt like taping his entire body to the bed so he would stay away from me!! lol
But I do feel sexy still...that my husband wants me even though I look like bloated beached whale! He has been very supportive about my next to nil sex drive....but he has been getting what he wants (most of the time) so he's happy he waited and had to settle with porns for the time being.
"I might be a little young, but honey I ain't naive"
"If it ain't an APBT, it's just a dog"
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