Thread: What to tell my fiance?

I talked to my gyno' about iud and different types i was reading about one that is inserted and last for 5 years and if we wanted to take it out to try to have a baby it would be fine however that type he told me is beter used on a lady who has already had childen once before but i could be done on my period and with a little discomfort but as at that time i was only looking in to it and also withought insurance i said noway as it would be way to much out of pocket exspence it was just an idea to keep in mind.

Originally Posted by WildChild

Really you should be using BC. He chokes during sex without any prior agreement or discussion on it and freaks out over the possibility you might get pregnant. This doens't sound like a man who is ready to start a family or even to consider marriage. I really urge you to give this more time before you commit completely.

Well okay i figured it would be beter to be on birth controll but for the time being with him traveling and working so much and we only have sex about 5 times a month on his busy scheduel i was not to worried about that , we have been together for 4 years and are engaged to be married he is excited and will talk about our plans even though we only have a few plans of what we want to do in the next few months like moving out of state his jobs..ect and for his being freaked out about the idea of me being pregnent i do believe it was only that we are not ready for a baby he was traveling and would not be with me and he is already always worried about me if i was pregnent he would want to be able to be with me and take care of my needs also he know's that stress is not good for pregnent women and were i was staying i was under a lot of stress'es.. i dont think it was because he does not want kids he loves babies and is good with kids and talkes about having our own christian family and no doubt was worried about exspence as he is always worried about money even though he makes enough and i dont ask for things , now with the choking if i was to ask him to stop during sex he would he is usualy so gental and never wants to do things that hurt me or upsets me thats not how he is but i dont think he relizes while in such a heated moment how strong and forcefull he can be but honestly if i would have knew about that type of thing before hand i would have said no and he would not have if he would remembered i dont really have any clue about sex other than what i read or remember so i just let him do what he likes now he is not very good at knowing things as he never did to much with his other g/f's lol , didnt mean for you to get the wrong idea of him as i do believe he is a very wonderful guy