LiLp

I had a pregnancy scare a couple weeks ago. Luckily getting my period a few days ago.

But Now...

I kind of want to try and have a baby. It feels weird. I was scared and was afraid then after that with hiim I wanted to try. He's a great guy. When I was afraid and told hiim our options he gave me hiis opinion(keepin it) but told me he would be behind me in whatever I chose to do.(I was thinking about a possible abortion). I am trying hard to get into the military, the same branch as hiim, right now wouldn't be the best time to have a baby but I want one.

If I leave in october I should be completely done with everything and out of M.O.S school by April. Sadly that is around the time he gets deployed March/or May. We talked about it and he feels the same in waiting but possibly trying before he leaves(If we see eachother)

Here's another wonder, I want to be with hiim and have a child with him but I don't want to get married(one thing we argue about)Is that completel wrong?

Well I guess a baby isn't happening in the nearest future, its just talk until we get the chance or the chance gets us

WildChild

This sounds like an impulsive decision. As you said this isn't a good time. Wait 6 months and see how you feel?

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Little

Imagine raising this child on your own, 100% without him.
Because essentially, that's what you would be doing.
1. Marine Corps deployments are prettymuch constant unless he can get an MOS or duty station that would keep him in the states. If he's at LeJeune, he's going to be gone over and over again.
2. Being in the Marine Corps yourself WITHOUT marrying him, you are basically saying "I don't want to live anywhere near the father of my child." As a married couple, you'd have an 80% chance to live on the same base. As an unmarried couple, you're leaving it up to chance, PLUS you won't be able to live together. He'd have to live in the barracks.
3. The USMC is a "fortress of conservative thought and values and the command ranks are bastioned with neanderthals who will suffer no free spirits." (Direct quote from a Major USMC Ret.) Enlisting then having a baby is likened to career suicide. Do you want to be a lifer? 20 years then retire? Just do your one enlistment? If the last one, why? There are lots of questions left to be answered about your enlistment ... but I assume if you're working hard to join, you don't want to mess it up with a baby.
Not to mention what you've already mentioned in your other threads:
1. He pulled the bait and switch on you and came inside you with no BC. In your words, "jerk" and "cruel joke." Is he father of your children material?
2. You do what he wants, he doesn't do what you want. You could stick yourself to this man for your child's lifetime, or you could find someone whose fantasies are more kin to your own.
I've given you a lot of things to think about. Give us more information about your thinking ... but I'll guarantee you one thing: your decision is being influenced by your hormones that are going to start screaming "baybee!" at you every month until you give in. I'm dealing with them now.
Good luck You've got a lot to think over.

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