Thread: seeking help

no Muslim girl can be forced to marry against her will:

This is absolutely true, but marriage must be with in the consent of both parents that's why there's no such thing here as a secret marriage.
Islam marriage will not be legal without the following:
1. consent of both groom and bride's parents
2. dowry (as a gift of a groom to his bride)
3.Occasion that relatives are there.. (it is like sacrament. )

There are so many things that Islam forbid..

so in short, Marriage only is the way for woman and man to interact to each other.

Yeah, I was forced and yes he was my boyfriend. in our culture, boyfriend is like fiance, engage to each other. both parents knows it and agreed. but before the marriage, I saw a girl and had prove that they had on relationship. So, I broke up with him.. So, instead of broking up with me too, my bf and his parents convinced my parents that the wedding must set sooner or later. they swore that no girl involve like what i used to tell them. But because my parents knew them, they believed in them. (Instead of supporting me, they blame me because of what his parents told them)I explained my side to my parents and his parents too but it's like nobody heard me.
They kept the wedding secretly. I run away. and one day i received a txt message. it was coming from my mother saying that my father had collapse because of me and he might dead. I knew my father had a high blood pressure. So, i felt guilty and came back home. When I got home, the guy was there waiting for me and we already married.

and i didn't know also that he was already married to other girl. I played a good wife to him for the sick of my father. I was already 2 months pregnant when i proved that the girl existed. So after my delivery. I run away home and meet some one else.

I just wanted to be happy and free. I want to help my family but not like that way. I can't take that my husband supposedly will care for me of all the time, spending time also to other woman. When i need him, he can't come coz he has to spend time to that others too.. anybody here can tell me that i'm selfish? go ahead, call me like that. A sinner too. I was asking for divorced but he won't. I tried all possible that i can do but still he won't..