please help fast, but read what i wrote. thanks

anthony82 · 10-16-2009, 12:25 PM

a woman i'm dating has become prego. ahhhhhhhhhhh... she's already elected to take care of the situation. that is completely up to the woman as a man should have no say on what to do with the woman's body. she already has 3 children and i have one. we've both expressed that we're done having children. anyway, she has been a complete to me and states that it's just her hormonal issues. she has severe hormonal issues during this time. she told me that to go along with her bad pms cycle. she's a completely different person. she wanted to take a break from the relationship as of this past sunday. left for miami tuesday with her job and came back wednesday. i hadn't heard her voice since sunday and not a message since monday. she finally contacted me thursday. it didn't go well. she claimed that she sent me a message earlier that day asking me for help. I NEVER GOT IT. i would not put her off. especially if she needs my help. she calls me and i tell her how i'm feeling. i've felt like i did something wrong, she says i am not at fault. it's her. she feels i don't understand her and actually said that we're not going to work!! that stung me for real. i let her know later that night, and it's not something she doesn't know.. that i'm a good guy, will treat her right and tell her anything. she was mad because i was hesitant in telling her that i had been seeing a shrink since last week to help me get through my own personal issues. she flipped about that and feels like i was keeping something from her. I WASN'T. i was hesitant because of the way she had been acting with me. didn't feel comfortable. didn't feel like i could tell her. she flipped it on me like i was doubting us! so what i'm asking from you ladies, is she just talking based on raging hormones or... is she really feeling this way about me. how can i not take what she says or does so personal?

**LanaBear** · 10-16-2009, 12:37 PM

Hormones, emotions, stress, regret, you name it, she's probably going through it. Unfortunately you probably don't understand what she is going through and she may be angry at you for that. Yes, I know, we're crazy sometimes. Go figure.

You can try and support her through this if she lets you. If she doesn't, there's not much else you can do...

And you wouldn't be human if you didn't take it personally.

Soapgirl · 10-16-2009, 03:58 PM

To be perfectly honest, just from what I read, a little of both. While hormones do make us overly emotional sometimes, they don't make us say things we don't mean (about serious issues that is) We may bite someones head off for looking at us the wrong way, or go tell someone to jump of a cliff, but normally we would not tell someone we wanted to end a relationship, without some truth behind it. She may not have want to tell you that way or even say anything to you about it at all ( that may be the hormones) but from what you wrote is does sound like she is at least unsure of the relationship right now. From what you have written she seems to have a lot of personal issues she is dealing with, as do you. Maybe you two should take a break for a while. Give you and her some time to adjust and deal with what you are going through, maybe things will look clearer once things have settled down a bit. Good luck and I hope things turn out the way you want them to.

10-16-2009, 12:25 PM	#1
anthony82 Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 2	please help fast, but read what i wrote. thanks a woman i'm dating has become prego. ahhhhhhhhhhh... she's already elected to take care of the situation. that is completely up to the woman as a man should have no say on what to do with the woman's body. she already has 3 children and i have one. we've both expressed that we're done having children. anyway, she has been a complete to me and states that it's just her hormonal issues. she has severe hormonal issues during this time. she told me that to go along with her bad pms cycle. she's a completely different person. she wanted to take a break from the relationship as of this past sunday. left for miami tuesday with her job and came back wednesday. i hadn't heard her voice since sunday and not a message since monday. she finally contacted me thursday. it didn't go well. she claimed that she sent me a message earlier that day asking me for help. I NEVER GOT IT. i would not put her off. especially if she needs my help. she calls me and i tell her how i'm feeling. i've felt like i did something wrong, she says i am not at fault. it's her. she feels i don't understand her and actually said that we're not going to work!! that stung me for real. i let her know later that night, and it's not something she doesn't know.. that i'm a good guy, will treat her right and tell her anything. she was mad because i was hesitant in telling her that i had been seeing a shrink since last week to help me get through my own personal issues. she flipped about that and feels like i was keeping something from her. I WASN'T. i was hesitant because of the way she had been acting with me. didn't feel comfortable. didn't feel like i could tell her. she flipped it on me like i was doubting us! so what i'm asking from you ladies, is she just talking based on raging hormones or... is she really feeling this way about me. how can i not take what she says or does so personal?

10-16-2009, 12:37 PM	#2
LanaBear Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Moon Lander Champion! Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: A cozy little cottage on the moon. :-) Posts: 1,672 Blog Entries: 5	Hormones, emotions, stress, regret, you name it, she's probably going through it. Unfortunately you probably don't understand what she is going through and she may be angry at you for that. Yes, I know, we're crazy sometimes. Go figure. You can try and support her through this if she lets you. If she doesn't, there's not much else you can do... And you wouldn't be human if you didn't take it personally. __________________ Sometimes life isn't the party we hoped for, but since we're here, we might as well DANCE!

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10-16-2009, 03:58 PM	#3
Soapgirl Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 16	To be perfectly honest, just from what I read, a little of both. While hormones do make us overly emotional sometimes, they don't make us say things we don't mean (about serious issues that is) We may bite someones head off for looking at us the wrong way, or go tell someone to jump of a cliff, but normally we would not tell someone we wanted to end a relationship, without some truth behind it. She may not have want to tell you that way or even say anything to you about it at all ( that may be the hormones) but from what you wrote is does sound like she is at least unsure of the relationship right now. From what you have written she seems to have a lot of personal issues she is dealing with, as do you. Maybe you two should take a break for a while. Give you and her some time to adjust and deal with what you are going through, maybe things will look clearer once things have settled down a bit. Good luck and I hope things turn out the way you want them to.