I'm Scared!

**lilwifey07** · 01-30-2007, 09:57 AM

I just found out yesterday that I am going to be a mommy and I am just so scared. I mean I am always trying to relax and calm down and just get alot of sleep. The more I sleep the less I stress and its better for the baby anyways I heard. But I have been pregnant before and I have no children currently. I am scared of this pregnancy. I read all the Do's and Don't during pregnancy and I started yesterday cooking meals with tons of veggies and I drink juices and gatoraide and no more caffine and I am very hesitant in having sex. My husband is worried to but obvious NOT AS WORRIED AS I AM ABOUT THE NO SEX THING. And as if I don't have enough to worry about I am worrying about whether or not I am going to be a good mother. Am I ready to have a baby? I mean I look at my life and I am so happy I did the things I managed to do. I was in the military, I graduated at the top of my class from high school, I married the worlds most wonderful man two years ago and I couldn't be more grateful that we are finally having babies. I got to really get to know my husband and our marriage and we got confortable with everything. He is my best friend and I just love his butt to death. I couldn't have chosen a better man to father my children and a better friend to spend life with. God sent me and angel when I met him. He isn't perfect and neither am I but dang, he can have his moments where he is super close. I am scared of being a mommy. Have any other woman felt this? Like I know I have done pretty much everything I wanted to get done before kids but I feel like... I don't know I am just scared. Maybe I will buy those pregnancy books, "What to expect when your expecting!" Maybe those books will help me out. But is this feeling normal? Have any woman experienced the same?

**patricias213** · 01-30-2007, 12:27 PM

I know you must be scared but in time it will go away, sounds to me like you are prepared for this child. Talk too your doctor about the sex thing he will give you the best advice. i bought this book a while ago i highly recommend it to you its called "The Girlfriends guide to Pregnancy" by Vicki Iovine. it has everything that your doctor might not tell you.goodluck! and keep us posted!

**AFemaleProdigy** · 01-31-2007, 07:16 AM

Most women are scared to have their first child. A million questions and "what-ifs" come up during that time. I personally don't have children yet, but my husband and I want them, and I think that way all the time. It really is scary. It's a new step in life where everything changes. So it's normal to feel that way.

I agree that those feelings will pass in time. Having a child brings out a new person in most people. This new person is more caring, patient, and responsible. Don't dwell on what you did in the past. It's what you do from this point on that matters. Just work hard to be a better person and you will be fine. You will be a good mommy as long as you always try.

Don't worry about having sex. It is safe to have sex until late in your pregnancy. The baby doesn't even develop most of it's sensory organs until the 6th month. So, you don't have to worry about the baby having any idea what is going on. The penis will not harm the baby in any way. It is actually said that sex is good for pregnant women.

Don't sleep too much. It can actually be bad for you and the baby. Rest when you need it or if your doctor puts you on bed rest due to complications. Otherwise, if you are healthy, then it is better for you to stay active as long as possible. I am glad to hear you are eating well though! Good job!

Oh... and CONGRATULATIONS!!

**lilwifey07** · 01-31-2007, 07:22 AM

Thank you so much for your kind words. I appreciate them. Right now the husband and I talked and we are voting no sex until doctors appointment on Valentines day and everything is fine. So, we will see then. We are looking for a new a bigger home to raise a family in and I can't wait to start buying things for my child. Finding out the sex of my healthy baby is going to be exciting in the next couple months. OH AND I FINALLY QUIT SMOKING last night. I know I found out I was pregnant two days ago and the nurse told me to slow down with the smoking. Like don't stop all together but slow it down... Well I couldn't smoke while being pregnant. It made me feel way to guilty. Thank you for the book suggestion. I am writing it down and I will see if they have it at the library. The one thing that is concerning me a little bit is the fact I am having very mild cramps. They come and go but are these something to be worried about?

**mom23kidz1** · 02-13-2007, 12:29 AM

good luck and congrats

youngmother · 02-21-2007, 02:56 PM

I was seventeen and still in high school when I found out I was pregnant. Besides the fear of telling my parents, the thought of me haveing a child scared the out of me. I read ever book about pregnancy that I could get my hands on. I tried to eat and drink the right stuff, but let me tell you something. Being pregnant is more natural than anything I know. You shouldn't have to worry too much about what your eating and how much your taking in. Being pregnant means you can eat whatever you want with anything on top and still get more. After I calmed down a bit when I was pregnant I didn't worry too much about how much I ate. I pretty much ate everything in sight

. Although, I was sure to get the right amount of veggitables and dairy as I suppose to each day. I've been around many women whose been pregnant and have had from one to seven kids. And I have to tell you something. If your asking yourself if your going to be a good parent, then that means your going to be a great parent. I have experienced everthing you've said and more. Soon you'll be feeling all kinds of things. This is totally normal. If your not feeling these thangs, then that's when you should worry. The book "What to expect when your expecting" and "What to expect the first year" saved me in so many ways and it is definately worth buying. I promise.

**lilwifey07** · 02-27-2007, 02:51 PM

Thank you so much to the last lady that responded. That helped imensly. I am feeling so much better now. I heard my childs heart beat and saw my babies first picture and I feeling like I am doing well. I am eating what I want and when i want except I eat when I am hungry. I don't eat all day long. But I am very excited. Daddy and I are buying diapers and clothes and hopefully praying that family helps us with the rest. Thanks so much for everything. I hope you are doing well!

01-30-2007, 09:57 AM	#1
lilwifey07 VIP Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: In a rindky dink town in texas Posts: 85	I'm Scared! I just found out yesterday that I am going to be a mommy and I am just so scared. I mean I am always trying to relax and calm down and just get alot of sleep. The more I sleep the less I stress and its better for the baby anyways I heard. But I have been pregnant before and I have no children currently. I am scared of this pregnancy. I read all the Do's and Don't during pregnancy and I started yesterday cooking meals with tons of veggies and I drink juices and gatoraide and no more caffine and I am very hesitant in having sex. My husband is worried to but obvious NOT AS WORRIED AS I AM ABOUT THE NO SEX THING. And as if I don't have enough to worry about I am worrying about whether or not I am going to be a good mother. Am I ready to have a baby? I mean I look at my life and I am so happy I did the things I managed to do. I was in the military, I graduated at the top of my class from high school, I married the worlds most wonderful man two years ago and I couldn't be more grateful that we are finally having babies. I got to really get to know my husband and our marriage and we got confortable with everything. He is my best friend and I just love his butt to death. I couldn't have chosen a better man to father my children and a better friend to spend life with. God sent me and angel when I met him. He isn't perfect and neither am I but dang, he can have his moments where he is super close. I am scared of being a mommy. Have any other woman felt this? Like I know I have done pretty much everything I wanted to get done before kids but I feel like... I don't know I am just scared. Maybe I will buy those pregnancy books, "What to expect when your expecting!" Maybe those books will help me out. But is this feeling normal? Have any woman experienced the same? __________________ Miracles Happen

01-31-2007, 07:16 AM	#3
AFemaleProdigy Veteran Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Ohio Posts: 885 Blog Entries: 1	Most women are scared to have their first child. A million questions and "what-ifs" come up during that time. I personally don't have children yet, but my husband and I want them, and I think that way all the time. It really is scary. It's a new step in life where everything changes. So it's normal to feel that way. I agree that those feelings will pass in time. Having a child brings out a new person in most people. This new person is more caring, patient, and responsible. Don't dwell on what you did in the past. It's what you do from this point on that matters. Just work hard to be a better person and you will be fine. You will be a good mommy as long as you always try. Don't worry about having sex. It is safe to have sex until late in your pregnancy. The baby doesn't even develop most of it's sensory organs until the 6th month. So, you don't have to worry about the baby having any idea what is going on. The penis will not harm the baby in any way. It is actually said that sex is good for pregnant women. Don't sleep too much. It can actually be bad for you and the baby. Rest when you need it or if your doctor puts you on bed rest due to complications. Otherwise, if you are healthy, then it is better for you to stay active as long as possible. I am glad to hear you are eating well though! Good job! Oh... and CONGRATULATIONS!! __________________ ~Jessica

01-31-2007, 07:22 AM	#4
lilwifey07 VIP Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: In a rindky dink town in texas Posts: 85	update Thank you so much for your kind words. I appreciate them. Right now the husband and I talked and we are voting no sex until doctors appointment on Valentines day and everything is fine. So, we will see then. We are looking for a new a bigger home to raise a family in and I can't wait to start buying things for my child. Finding out the sex of my healthy baby is going to be exciting in the next couple months. OH AND I FINALLY QUIT SMOKING last night. I know I found out I was pregnant two days ago and the nurse told me to slow down with the smoking. Like don't stop all together but slow it down... Well I couldn't smoke while being pregnant. It made me feel way to guilty. Thank you for the book suggestion. I am writing it down and I will see if they have it at the library. The one thing that is concerning me a little bit is the fact I am having very mild cramps. They come and go but are these something to be worried about? __________________ Miracles Happen

02-21-2007, 02:56 PM	#6
youngmother Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 2	I hope this helps. I was seventeen and still in high school when I found out I was pregnant. Besides the fear of telling my parents, the thought of me haveing a child scared the out of me. I read ever book about pregnancy that I could get my hands on. I tried to eat and drink the right stuff, but let me tell you something. Being pregnant is more natural than anything I know. You shouldn't have to worry too much about what your eating and how much your taking in. Being pregnant means you can eat whatever you want with anything on top and still get more. After I calmed down a bit when I was pregnant I didn't worry too much about how much I ate. I pretty much ate everything in sight . Although, I was sure to get the right amount of veggitables and dairy as I suppose to each day. I've been around many women whose been pregnant and have had from one to seven kids. And I have to tell you something. If your asking yourself if your going to be a good parent, then that means your going to be a great parent. I have experienced everthing you've said and more. Soon you'll be feeling all kinds of things. This is totally normal. If your not feeling these thangs, then that's when you should worry. The book "What to expect when your expecting" and "What to expect the first year" saved me in so many ways and it is definately worth buying. I promise.

02-27-2007, 02:51 PM	#7
lilwifey07 VIP Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: In a rindky dink town in texas Posts: 85	Thank you Thank you so much to the last lady that responded. That helped imensly. I am feeling so much better now. I heard my childs heart beat and saw my babies first picture and I feeling like I am doing well. I am eating what I want and when i want except I eat when I am hungry. I don't eat all day long. But I am very excited. Daddy and I are buying diapers and clothes and hopefully praying that family helps us with the rest. Thanks so much for everything. I hope you are doing well! __________________ Miracles Happen

01-30-2007, 12:27 PM	#2
patricias213 WH Moderator Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: NYC Posts: 1,092 Blog Entries: 9	I know you must be scared but in time it will go away, sounds to me like you are prepared for this child. Talk too your doctor about the sex thing he will give you the best advice. i bought this book a while ago i highly recommend it to you its called "The Girlfriends guide to Pregnancy" by Vicki Iovine. it has everything that your doctor might not tell you.goodluck! and keep us posted!

02-13-2007, 12:29 AM	#5
mom23kidz1 VIP Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 40	good luck and congrats

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