Scared to give birth after IUD

KBG · 11-10-2009, 05:31 PM

Yes, I must be a wimp. I had a horrible IUD insertion. LOTS of pain. Just got it removed today with a LOT less pain but it still felt like someone pierced my cervix will a dull needle. My doctor acted like I was a wimp...didnt come right out and say it but he made it obvious.

So now I am so scared about giving birth that I actually dont want to have children. When I think about getting pregnant and giving birth, I almost cry. This is really embarrassing because I am usually pretty tough...or so I thought. I guess I have a really low pain tolerance down there. I dont seem to mind other things like IV's, injuries, surgery, etc but giving birth scares me beyond words. I'm 25 and my husband really wants to get pregnant next fall. I wish HE was the one to get pregnant because I am a big chicken.

Is this normal? Can someone make me less afraid of giving birth? Is it THAT horrible?????

**WildChild** · 11-10-2009, 09:05 PM

Well I've has two by natural childbirth and it really wasn't bad. It's an intense experience but not really painful in way that the IUD insertion or removal might have been. Educate yourself, get some of Ina Mae Gaskin's books and Susun Weeds, The Childbearing Year - they are a good place to start.

**Mes_T** · 11-10-2009, 09:47 PM

Exactly. If natural childbirths are done right (meaning lots of education beforehand and some capable people on hand), it can really be a great experience. One reason why giving birth might be more painful than it has to be is because of most women's surroundings (generic busy, noisy hospital, white walls, uninviting bed) AND preconceived notions that childbirth has to be painful.

Otherwise, there are PLENTY of painkillers on hand for this event!!

KBG · 11-11-2009, 07:22 AM

Oh ladies...NATURAL childbirth isnt even an option.

Women who go natural are a different breed. One that is much tougher than I am!

I am even scared WITH an epidural!

Thanks for the book suggestions. I am ordering today from Amazon.

**WildChild** · 11-11-2009, 08:02 AM

Epidurals slow down the labor and make it all take loooooonger.

KBG · 11-11-2009, 01:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by WildChild

Epidurals slow down the labor and make it all take loooooonger.

As long as I dont feel it nearly as much, I am okay with that

**KMonte85** · 11-11-2009, 01:52 PM

When my neice had her child, she had an epidural. Yes, it took longer, but she was on her cell texting,taking pix, and updating her Facebook during labor and would stop now and again to focus when the Dr told her to PUSH!

Sure it took longer and was a lot less intense and special, but she didn't feel a thing, and I for one am OKAY with that.

**Mes_T** · 11-11-2009, 05:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KMonte85

When my neice had her child, she had an epidural. Yes, it took longer, but she was on her cell texting,taking pix, and updating her Facebook during labor and would stop now and again to focus when the Dr told her to PUSH!

Sure it took longer and was a lot less intense and special, but she didn't feel a thing, and I for one am OKAY with that.

Ha!!

The epitome of facebook obsession.

11-10-2009, 05:31 PM	#1
KBG Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 3	Scared to give birth after IUD Yes, I must be a wimp. I had a horrible IUD insertion. LOTS of pain. Just got it removed today with a LOT less pain but it still felt like someone pierced my cervix will a dull needle. My doctor acted like I was a wimp...didnt come right out and say it but he made it obvious. So now I am so scared about giving birth that I actually dont want to have children. When I think about getting pregnant and giving birth, I almost cry. This is really embarrassing because I am usually pretty tough...or so I thought. I guess I have a really low pain tolerance down there. I dont seem to mind other things like IV's, injuries, surgery, etc but giving birth scares me beyond words. I'm 25 and my husband really wants to get pregnant next fall. I wish HE was the one to get pregnant because I am a big chicken. Is this normal? Can someone make me less afraid of giving birth? Is it THAT horrible?????

11-10-2009, 09:05 PM	#2
WildChild Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Western USA Posts: 7,874 Blog Entries: 6	Well I've has two by natural childbirth and it really wasn't bad. It's an intense experience but not really painful in way that the IUD insertion or removal might have been. Educate yourself, get some of Ina Mae Gaskin's books and Susun Weeds, The Childbearing Year - they are a good place to start. __________________ We can only learn to love by loving. Iris Mudoch, British writer

11-11-2009, 08:02 AM	#5
WildChild Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Western USA Posts: 7,874 Blog Entries: 6	Epidurals slow down the labor and make it all take loooooonger. __________________ We can only learn to love by loving. Iris Mudoch, British writer

11-11-2009, 01:52 PM	#7
KMonte85 Silver Contributor 100+ Posts Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Southeastern WI Posts: 466	When my neice had her child, she had an epidural. Yes, it took longer, but she was on her cell texting,taking pix, and updating her Facebook during labor and would stop now and again to focus when the Dr told her to PUSH! Sure it took longer and was a lot less intense and special, but she didn't feel a thing, and I for one am OKAY with that. __________________ When choosing between two evils, I always like to try the one I've never tried before.

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11-10-2009, 09:47 PM	#3
Mes_T Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Snake Champion! Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 716	Exactly. If natural childbirths are done right (meaning lots of education beforehand and some capable people on hand), it can really be a great experience. One reason why giving birth might be more painful than it has to be is because of most women's surroundings (generic busy, noisy hospital, white walls, uninviting bed) AND preconceived notions that childbirth has to be painful. Otherwise, there are PLENTY of painkillers on hand for this event!!

11-11-2009, 07:22 AM	#4
KBG Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 3	Oh ladies...NATURAL childbirth isnt even an option. Women who go natural are a different breed. One that is much tougher than I am! I am even scared WITH an epidural! Thanks for the book suggestions. I am ordering today from Amazon.

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