I want a baby so bad!! I need advice!

**lele23** · 12-01-2009 08:04 PM

ME AND MY HUSBAND HAVE BEEN TRYING TO CONCIEVE FOR A YEAR NOW AND IT HASN'T HAPPEN. MY CYCLES ARE IRREGULAR, I DON'T KNOW IF THAT IS THE REASON THOUGH. I HAVE TRIED GERITOL AND THAT DOESN'T WORK SO NOW IAM ABOUT TO TRY CLOMID. CAN ANYONE ELSE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE OR SOMETHING THAT THEY THINK WILL HELP US HAVE A BABY SOON OTHER THAN HAVING SEX EVERYDAY LOL!

**Mes T** · 12-01-2009 08:07 PM

Well the best way to conceive IS to have sex, and often!

Sorry? I hope the sex is good?

Most people who go to doctors complaining of problems with conception actually don't have any health problems, they just don't know that a woman can only get pregnant at certain times of the month.

I'd suggest trying to find out when you ovulate, that's the important bit, though if your cycles are irregular, that might be difficult.

Btw do you know why they're irregular? How old are you? There might be a hormonal imbalance that could be making things difficult for you.

**hello_pitty** · 12-01-2009 08:41 PM

May I suggest one thing? DON'T have sex everyday. Try every 3 days so your husband has time to "reload" and his semen will be more concentrated with sperms. (worked like a charm for us..I am now 9 months pregnant!) Also STOP "trying" and just enjoy the sex. I heard that when a woman has a powerful orgasm it helps her become pregnant.

Also afterwards, try laying on your back with your legs pulled into your chest (like a ball) for about 5 mins to keep the sperm in your body for longer, thus giving them time to get further into your body, also relax after sex, don't get up right away. Snuggle for about half an hour or watch TV in your room, or read.

Don't stress over it okay? I know you have been trying for a year, but some people take a year, while some become pregnant the first try! I was irregular since I started my period as a teen, but following these things helped me and my husband get pregnant.

good luck

**LanaBear** · 12-01-2009 08:47 PM

You can try keeping track of you Basal Body Temp (BBT). You can buy the thermometer and charts at a pharmacy.

It took me two years after getting off BC to get pregnant with my first. Start charting when you are ovulating, start tracking your BBT. As hello pitty said above, DON'T have sex every day, even every other day. His sperm counts won't be high. When you know when you are ovulating (approx) abstain from sex for 2-3 days before. Then go at it when you ovulate. I would lay on my back with my feet up against the wall after.

I did end up taking Chlomid and got pregnant after the 2nd cycle I believe.

Good luck!!!

**mandee2007** · 12-02-2009 01:54 PM

I had irregular periods for the last over 2yrs...me and my hubby had been not preventing it and it took us a little over 2yrs...we just found out October 22 that we're expecting our first child due June 19th. We had alot of stress and then we moved and the stress went away and that month we conceived...relax...DONT TRY! enjoy sex...try new positions...cuddle after sex dont immediatly go take a shower or whatever...when your laying there dont think about it...so just take your time and have fun! thats my advice

**lele23** · 12-02-2009 07:57 PM

thanks you all I'am 23 yrs old so I don't think it could be anything dealing with my hormones. but yeah I will take the advice. I'm on my cycle now and has been on for 9 days now and that's not normal. My cycle is just really irregular. So I plan on taking clomid once it stops. and when should I find out when I'm ovulating??? and do you all suggest clomid would help me. I know it's not my husband cause he already has a four yr old little girl. but THANKS EVERYONE!!

**LuC** · 12-04-2009 08:40 AM

My husband and i tried for over a year and finally i am now 5 months pregnant. I also had to track my ovulation as i am irregular also, you can purchase an ovulation kit at any pharmacy and your suppose to start tracking it on the first day or your period. Also if your taking clomid make sure it's recommended by your doctor. You'll be fine just relax and enjoy.

P.S. Having sex everyday will not get you pregnant.

**sperosi** · 12-06-2009 03:00 PM

if you have been trying for over a year, it might make sense to go and have a discussion with a doctor. he or she may suggest fertility testing and refer you to a reproductive endocrinologist. there are plenty of places that provide reproductive testing and associated services. links aren't allowed, you you will have to search on your own. good luck and I hope you end up with the BFP you are looking for.

(BFP is big fat pregnancy)

**sarahp0001** · 12-09-2009 05:17 PM

I sympathize w/ you and know how disappointing it is to try and try and still not be able to conceive. I have definitely done my research in this area, as I have had difficulty conceiving in the past --until I met the most amazing doctor! She has helped me and countless other women overcome their fertility issues. She is located in Santa Monica, CA and her name is DR. Fradin-Read at LifeSpan Santa Monica. From what I understand, she has several patients from remote locations even - outside the greater L.A. area... you should definitely look her up!

**peny** · 12-17-2009 12:53 AM

Since your period is irregular, you should watch out for signs of ovulation. Common signs include changes is cervical mucus and mild abdominal pains You can also measure your basal body temperature.

Another thing to do is for both you and your husband to see a doctor. The usual rule of thumb is to see a doctor after 1 year of trying to conceive. That way you'll know whether one of you is having infertility issues and can proceed accordingly.