A third child?!?!

**deepgrl** · 01-12-2010 02:07 PM

So......hmmmmmm.....I kinda think I am pregnant. I am seeing the doctor this afternoon to find out for sure but I am nervous and need to vent a bit so I hope everyone will tell me what their opinion is.o
I live in a small two bedroom apartment with my husband, and my two daughters both under 18 months of age. My husband has a good job that provides enough for us to have what we need and a few wants. We have to b
pay bills, a car payment,ect. But we are happy and we love eachother so we are working on a better future like owning a house.
But if I am pregnant I see three choices in my head:
1. Have a beautiful baby. But I just had one 3 months ago so it would be hard on my body. And I am happy with just my two girls. Although, it could be a boy and give me something different to experience.
2. Give baby up for adoption. Though I know that both my husbands family and mine would not be happy about this at all. Personally I don't think I could do this, and so I am ruling this option as a no.
3. Have an abortion. My bestfriend had this done and wishes she hadn't. It's painful and hard mentally I would assume. But I don't think our finances can handle a new baby (we already scrimp and save) so thus I bring up this option.

So that's what I've been thinking about for awhile now.

We have been using condoms, but if I am not pregnant I will be going on birth control so I feel safer. Thanks for listening. I'll let you know what happens!

**sourpuss** · 01-12-2010 02:13 PM

My advice is to make the choice that would allow you and your husband to be good parents, whatever that choice may be. You do not have to feel any remorse or guilt with any decision if that is what it is based on.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 01-12-2010 03:30 PM

Worrying about the "what if's" creates alot of stress in your life.

I'm a great believer of don't even think about what if's, or how you will cope with it, or what to do, unless it actually happens.

I'm also a great believer of thoughts should be shared in order to make a management decision so welcome to the Forum, we're pleased that you felt you could come here and talk about it. We definately will support you and help you through it, if that is the case.

Lastly, this is a decision for "both" of you. At this point in time, your mind is wandering on your thoughts.

If it does prove to be positive, talk together as a couple and make the decision together on how you both feel about it.... would be my thoughts.

I would imagine your both quite fertile so Birth Control if you are not would be a better option for you both, until you are ready to have another child.

CW

**deepgrl** · 01-13-2010 08:36 PM

Well, I am not pregnant! And on birthcontrol pills as of today.
Thanks for letting me vent and for the advice. CHANDLERS WISH you are definately right about the what ifs. I do it so much and just realized I have got to stop because I literally drive myself crazy thinking about everything.