Can a doctor tell if it was an abotion or a D&C?
My cousin had an abortion and wants to tell her doctor that it was a miscarriage and a D&C. Can her doctor tell, because it is the same surgery that is performed?
She is not proud of what she did. She is so ashamed and depressed that I will never judge her for it. She aready had 3 kids under 4 with a husband who works on the road and she felt so overwhelmed she just cracked. The day after she did it, she tried to kill herself, so please do not her judge for what she did.
Please only give advice and not hateful comments.
No, they cannot tell. However, she should be seen for her depression and she should be honest about why she is depressed. Dr's deal with this often and the only way she can get true/honest help is if she is seeing someone that she can discuss freely why it is she feels this why.
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Whoever said anything was possible obviously never tried slamming a revolving door.
It would be best for your friend to confide in her doctor that she had an abortion and is now suffering for severe depression. It is the Doctor's duty as a medical provider not to pass judgement on his/her patients and to provide them with the medical care they need. If your cousin doesn't tell her physician what medical procedure she had done, then there is a chance that she won't receive the proper care.
On another note, I don't think you would find a hateful comment on this forum. The people here are quite open to discussion and nonjudgemental, we want what is best for the poster. I, myself, understand that there are times life hands us challenges and we make decisions based off of what we think is best. Your cousin had to do what was right for her, she shouldn't feel shamed, but she SHOULD seek professional help for her depression... Best of luck to her!
Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine.
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I think its crucial that she tell her doctor the truth about her medical history. Its embarassing, humiliating to admit some things to a stranger in a white coat and not feel like you may be judged...but that honesty is what your life may depend on.
Saying she had a miscarriage may lead them to assume diagnoses based on women that miscarry... may lead to unecessary testing and or medications that could be harmful.
She may fool the doc saying whatever she wants, but it would not be to her benefit, at all.
Scars remind us of where we've been...they don't have to dictate where we're going.
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