Thread: Pregnancy Question

thanks ladies!!!. it has been 9 years since i was on the pill and i couldn't remember! really appreciate the feed back

I just realized that i really sounded like a total naive idiot. i swear i am not that stupid. it has just been a while since i have had to think about having babies.

see i was with my ex-husband for 12 years, and i have 1 son who will be ten in oct. but i have also had 1 tubal and 4 miscarriages since he was born. all spread out and varying in gestation and time between pregnancies. only 2 were planned and ended in disaster and were largely unexplained by my docs at the time. after a while i just assumed i couldn't have any more kids and didn't think about it again. (me and my ex have only used condoms a hand ful of times the entire time we were together.)

now that we are seperated, still going through tasty divorce, for ten months, i have been seeing this great guy. we actually met on line and have spent so much time together in the past 5 months it has been wonderful. but he is quite a bit older than me (18 years), and at first he said he didn't want to have kids. but last month i was a week late, due to stress no doubt. and his reaction was not what i expected given his thoughts on kids. he was so excited that i might be pregnant. said it didn't matter that he was older, it was ok becuase it was with me and we would take it as it comes.

well i was sort of freaking out the more i thought about it. it has been years since my last miscarriage, and i have since found out my ex has always had a very low sperm count, and i mean very. but i haven't thought about getting pregnant or being pregnant or anything along those lines. my new guy, has 2 grown daughters and it has been a trial for both of us emotionally to decide whether we wanted to continue with our relationship because of our kids. me being so close to his kids' age and him being a step parent to my son, when he's essencially raised his kids already. and also because of the age difference.

though we've worked through both those issues, i didn't want to touch the pregancy topic with a ten foot pole, hence the birthcontrol. now that i have had to stop. he is not my ex and he is NOT sterile and i have mixed feelings about getting pregnant.. on the one hand i have really thought about it and having his baby would be great, i never thought i would be this in love with anyone again and to make another person out of that love would be outstanding(sorry a little mushy). but on the other hand i remember all my old feelings when i had those miscarriages and the tubal and i don't want to go through that emotional turmoil again.

any other thoughts/opions please?..

we have a great sex life, i've never known anyone so intimately before,