Thread: Should I start trying now?

in my opinion- i would say yes, try having kids now- but your also talking to another 20yr old who is scared to wait too long. I have nothing medically wrong with me, but my aunt was unable to conceive for unknown reasons- and i just have that fear that it could happen to me- and esp since it gets harder the older you get- but i think you should make sure you have a stable home to raise a child in- do you plan on getting married before the baby would be born? do you have a house or apartment that you and your husband can raise the child in?

Thanks for your reply.
Yes, we own our own home, and have a very loving and stable relationship, and both of our families are very close by. I couldnt imagine a better environment.

The only thing that gives me pause is the fact that we have a substantial tax debt (accountant stuffed up!) and we are thinking of my partner getting a job where he is home, as he currently works away. It would be great because if i have a baby i would want him home, but it is less money of course.

But we would certainly have enough to live off, and a baby would want for absolutely nothing.

I know how you feel, people say "your only 20 dont worry" but I do worry because i would hate to not try until later in my 20's and then discover that I have trouble and it may take years to fall pregnant. I have always wanted children relatively young. We want more than one child and with all my problems, they think the easiest thing to do would be have as many children as we want (or can have) and then have a histerectomy.

I wish the doctors would just give me a straight answer. i know they cant say for certain, but it makes me very unsure that they say "you should be ok" and then in the same breath say "but try as soon as you can". It seems they are just trying to cover all the bases...

i think if you guys have a stable home and income- and loving relationship then i see no problem with having children. i mean what else is there to do!? i know once i have a house, atleast i will def be trying to get preg-but if it happens now- i'd love that baby just as much, and i d make sure i made a good home-

Are you in school?- that would be my only problem with having a baby right now, i am planning on going back to schoo, this fall and i know i wouldnt have the time to work-take courses and be home with my family.

No, Im not in school. I work full time. I worry about how loosing $1200 a fortnight will effect our income, it's not much, but it pays a few bills.

But you are right, I couldn't wish for a better situation to bring a child into. Looks like its time to pickup the discussion again!

did you talk to your partner about having kids????please update!

I totally understand you about your operations, may i ask you what operations you've had because i just had one in december for endometriosis and it came back negative but still can't conceive they also found scarring tissue im scared and afraid i can't conceive. can you help since you've done the surgeries? I'm also 20 years old.

In my family, endometreosis is very common. My grandmother died of uteren cancer, my mother had a hysterectomy at 39 because of tumors. my older sister and i have both been diagnosed with endometreosis. And now, my sister, who is only 27, needs to get a hysterectomy to. But, on top of all these problems, my grandmother had 4 kids, my mother had 4, my sister had 2, and i have 1. Conceiving when you have these type of problems is very possible. But the longer you wait the harder it will be. I had my daughter when i was 18. Now I am 20 and I am trying to conveive again. its been about 9 months that we have been trying and no results. Every month, I get siked out thinking i have pregnancy signs, but then my period comes. My advice to you is if you are mentally and finacially ready to have kids, don't wait. If my sister hadn't of had her kids early, she probably would have none at all. If your endometreosis is as bad as it sounds, your baby will be a miracle. But its not far off to believe it will happen. Just keep trying and it will happen when it is meant to. Good Luck.