Hi, I'm new to the site and looking for peoples opinions.

Im 20 years old, I have a wonderful partner who is 31, and I am wondering whether to try for a baby.

I have endometriosis, which was diagnosed at age 14. I have had 4 operations to treat it already. I have also had a 9cm by 9cm dermoid cyst on my left ovary which I have only just had removed last November. Thats 5 operations, all on my left side, in 5 years.

After only 3 months of peace, I am already in pain once again, and my doctors are worried it is another cyst. i am having a scan later this week. At the beginning of my troubles I was told i shouldnt have any problems falling pregnant, around the third operation I was told not to wait too long (wonderful to hear when you are only 17!) and after the last one they have advised me to try "as soon as circumstances permit".

They have told me to prepare to decide between two options... either I put up with the pain until I am ready to have a baby, and then have the cyst removed before trying (as it is likely it will make things difficult) or I have the cyst removed (and maybe the ovary) but run the risk of another one appearing before I have a baby. They say that every time they have to operate, it is causing scarring, and this may also make it difficult also.

So I guess my main questions are:
Has anyone else had the same sort of trouble and if so how easy was it for them to concieve?
and
Should we start trying now, expecting that it may take some time, with the possibility that it may happen sooner than expected?

My partner is wonderful and has said that he would be happy if I was pregnant, but at the same time financially we wont be ready for at least a year or 2... But family is so important to me, and i would rather start a family sooner than expected than run the risk of having trouble later on...

Any thoughts or opinions would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks

in my opinion- i would say yes, try having kids now- but your also talking to another 20yr old who is scared to wait too long. I have nothing medically wrong with me, but my aunt was unable to conceive for unknown reasons- and i just have that fear that it could happen to me- and esp since it gets harder the older you get- but i think you should make sure you have a stable home to raise a child in- do you plan on getting married before the baby would be born? do you have a house or apartment that you and your husband can raise the child in?

Thanks for your reply.
Yes, we own our own home, and have a very loving and stable relationship, and both of our families are very close by. I couldnt imagine a better environment.

The only thing that gives me pause is the fact that we have a substantial tax debt (accountant stuffed up!) and we are thinking of my partner getting a job where he is home, as he currently works away. It would be great because if i have a baby i would want him home, but it is less money of course.

But we would certainly have enough to live off, and a baby would want for absolutely nothing.

I know how you feel, people say "your only 20 dont worry" but I do worry because i would hate to not try until later in my 20's and then discover that I have trouble and it may take years to fall pregnant. I have always wanted children relatively young. We want more than one child and with all my problems, they think the easiest thing to do would be have as many children as we want (or can have) and then have a histerectomy.

I wish the doctors would just give me a straight answer. i know they cant say for certain, but it makes me very unsure that they say "you should be ok" and then in the same breath say "but try as soon as you can". It seems they are just trying to cover all the bases...

i think if you guys have a stable home and income- and loving relationship then i see no problem with having children. i mean what else is there to do!? i know once i have a house, atleast i will def be trying to get preg-but if it happens now- i'd love that baby just as much, and i d make sure i made a good home-

Are you in school?- that would be my only problem with having a baby right now, i am planning on going back to schoo, this fall and i know i wouldnt have the time to work-take courses and be home with my family.

No, Im not in school. I work full time. I worry about how loosing $1200 a fortnight will effect our income, it's not much, but it pays a few bills.

But you are right, I couldn't wish for a better situation to bring a child into. Looks like its time to pickup the discussion again!

did you talk to your partner about having kids????please update!

I totally understand you about your operations, may i ask you what operations you've had because i just had one in december for endometriosis and it came back negative but still can't conceive they also found scarring tissue im scared and afraid i can't conceive. can you help since you've done the surgeries? I'm also 20 years old.

Hello Ladies,

I am glad that I have found this website because there are lots of young women who wish to ahve children and it is very hard. Well, let me just say this, Dont worry about it, because when you start confessing or saying that you have something it really happens beause you claimed it. Do you know that doctors have been wrong on alot of occasions. They have told many of women that they could not conceive, but they have two lovely children, maybe even three. I am 22 years old and for the longest time I was trying to get pregnant, but it was not working. I did research, on every step that I needed to take, and told the doctor what I wanted to do. What was best for me, and it worked. I became pregnant.

Don't listen to these older people that say you have all the time in the world. Just because they were fertile mirtle growing up does not mean that you ae now.

The real reason why at such young ages, we are having problems conceiving is because the way that food is processed. They use all those chemicals, and steroids that effect your body in many different ways. We dont know this all we know is that it tastes good. Do you know that certain foods we eat will effect your fertility? The medicines we take. You will learn alot once you do research.

To you ladies with endometriosis, you can still have babies. I know several people who have had two children, and they have endometriosis or had it. If you believe in GOD believe him for all that he is worth.