Your not alone!

**sammyjimenez** · 04-17-2010 07:06 AM

Hello,
My name is Sammy and recently i have just expired something which in my life i have said I would never of done and seriously i never thought it would destroy me and upset me this much. I always thing about it... Anyway me and my boyfriend have been together 1 year and 4 months and I seriously dont know what I would do with out, The thing is recently in February in 2010 I found out i was pregnant, yeah everyone is suppose to be happy when they find out but no not me, I was only 15 at the time but the thing is, me and my boyfriend was always safe and I was on the pill, the doctor said we was just one of the unlucky ones! Everyone seemed so disappointed in me and him, and my Mum said I would not be aloud to live under her roof if i kept it, I'm still at school, and My boyfriend wanted to go to collage in London so it would not of been fair on the baby! we decided we was going to get rid of it so on February 12th I took the first tablet and on Valentines day thats when everything happened. The thing is, every time i thing about it I just wish i kept it, and I have turned really horrible to my boyfriend I mean he is really nice to me, but i just feel like im treating him horrible. PLEASE HELP!!!

**sourpuss** · 04-17-2010 08:11 AM

Just remember that it's not his fault, or yours for that matter. You did what you had to do for your future given the situation. You're very young and have a long, happy life ahead of you. Don't beat yourself up over having to make a tough decision. Thousands of people on the planet are in your same situation everyday. You're not a bad person, and neither is your boyfriend. One day you'll be a good mother and he'll be a good father. Now wasn't the right time for the both of you to be able to put your best foot forward and truly care for a child. Sometimes the best decisions in life are the hardest ones.
Just remember that you're not alone and you'll get through this if you are mature and compassionate about it. He stood by you and supported you, don't forget that.

**LanaBear** · 04-17-2010 09:54 AM

I agree with sp 100%. It's such a hard decision, but neither of you are to blame. Remember that. It doesn't make either of you any less of a person.

If you are having problems dealing with it, please seek help, a school counselor or something.

**sammyjimenez** · 04-17-2010 10:39 AM

Thank you for your advice, We thought what we done was for the best i mean we have only just turned 16 and having a baby then, would just be selfish i mean i dont have a job, nor does my boyfriend or anything so to be honest it would not be fair on the baby or me and my boyfriend as were still young so would like to live our lives first then settle down and plan things!. It was the toughest decision id ever made, and i thought id just make it and it would be easy, but it hasn't i keep thinking about it, and i try to put a brave face on but underneath no one knows how i feel about it, i mean i try not to mention it to forget about it although id never be able to forget it id just hope i dont think about it everyday as it does put me down. We are being mature about it, but i just feel like sometimes im on my own, he dont care about what we went through well he might just he dont like to show it, thats why i try not to mention it as i do get upset about it. He supported me every step of the way and im glad he did.

xx

**sourpuss** · 04-17-2010 11:23 AM

He's hurting like you are but he's just not showing it. Sometimes I think guys have a harder time with this situation because there's nothing they can do and they feel at fault. Just be there for one another and focus on the fact that you made the decision so that one day you can be a good mother.

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