4 year. WIll it ever happen?
As above. We have been trying for a baby for the last 4 year with no luck.
2 Year ago we visited the hospital who carried out a test on my other half and done the dye test on me and said everything was fine. They said I was a little overweight and getting that down may help. I was 15 stone so thought they were kind when saying a 'little' overweight. I have lost just over 5 stone and my periods are still irregular and still no baby
I didn't go back to the hospital as the stress of it made me ill but now I am dreaming all these horrible things that my body is not working and I will be childless forever. I have decided I will go back to the hospital for more test after my September holiday but all off a sudden my o/h is not being as supportive. He has assured me he really wants a baby but doesn't want to go through it all again. He is also banging on about us not doing it at the right time of the month and it will happen when it will happen. I just feel its ok for him to sit and say that but its me that has the problem
Sorry for the long post I just needed to get it off my chest
Edit: I am 26 year old
Last edited by Princess_Michelle; 05-21-2010 at 03:16 PM.
Go back to the Dr., there are many things that can be done to help. It took two years of trying for my first. I finally went to the Dr.
Have you tried charting you BBT? Have you taken any ovulation tests to determine if/when you are ovulating?
Also, don't let this become an issue in your marriage. When sex turns into a chore rather than fun, problems often start.
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May the fleas of a thousand camels infest the crotch of the person who screws up your day and may their arms be too short to scratch.
Amen
Whoever said anything was possible obviously never tried slamming a revolving door.
We got one of those silly expensive tests but felt they did not work. my BBT seemed to change all the time and wasn't giving an accurate recording. I do try and not let it get to me but as you will know it is always in your mind. The worst thing is none of our friends and family know as I don't want people asking all the time but it is so hard not having anyone to talk to about it.
Were you consistent with your temperature taking? First thing in the morning, before you even step foot off the bed, etc.?
All the testing came back fine for us as well. I was eventually got put on Provera (to start my period) and Chlomid (to aid in ovulation), I believe I got pregnant after 4-5 cycles.
Friendship Prayer
May the fleas of a thousand camels infest the crotch of the person who screws up your day and may their arms be too short to scratch.
Amen
Whoever said anything was possible obviously never tried slamming a revolving door.
I done it religiously every morning before I got out of bed. It was the first thing I done, even before talking. It went up and down through the month and could never see a set pattern. When I was younger I was so careful not to get pregnant and I laugh thinking if I knew what I know now I would never have been careful. (That comes across like I slept around. I didn't and have only had 1 partner)
Well, hun, go back to the Dr.
Be armed with all the information about what you have done in the last 4 years to get pregnant. They can help.
Friendship Prayer
May the fleas of a thousand camels infest the crotch of the person who screws up your day and may their arms be too short to scratch.
Amen
Whoever said anything was possible obviously never tried slamming a revolving door.
It might be that you are not ovulating. You said your temps were irregular and all over the place, could be that you are one of those that just have good eggs but they need a bit of help. I would see if there is a medication to aide in that. Listen to Lanabear and calm down the stress could be a factor too. I hope all works out for you, talk to the doctors and try to relax, and let your o/h know your anxiety and fears. Let him know that you are trying not to stress but can't help it. Open communication is the best for a marriage.
Thank you guys. My periods are all over and never on time. Sometimes I miss a month sometimes I am a week early so maybe it could be.
I am hoping forgetting about it while I prepare for my holiday and the actual holiday itself will help. I know he doesn't want to upset me but he is a very private person and doesn't like people knowing our problems.
Also not sure if all hospitals are the same but where you go for the tests is the same place the pregnant ladies go for scans etc. Its like this is what you could have had. Everyone is the waiting room is all smiles and cuddling bumps and must be looking at me thinking why does she look so glum. If I ever do get pregnant and sit cuddling my bump I will take a second to think about the other people in the room who do not look as happy.
And on the other hand they could be thinking "I know what she is going through." They could have been right where you are and their only way of showing you support is smiling. Being that your periods are all over the place I bet you ovulate at different times. My cousin was like that and she found out that she ovulated every three months. I know that limits your times to get pregnant, but she has two healthy kids now so there is hope. Maybe pills to force ovulation is what you really need. Best of luck and while it is hard to look at those women in the stores and on the streets pregnant or with tons of kids without thinking they are being too smug, remember this sometimes the grass looks greener on the other side but then you realize you are looking over the sewer line.
It's easy to be jealous of women who are pregnant, or to think that they didn't have the hardships you do trying ... I was right there after my miscarriage. I couldn't stand the women I saw around who were pregnant. But you never know what they've been through either ... they probably just think either you're not far along enough to show, or post-partum, or still trying just like they once had to ... or even just there for a check-up. I don't know anybody who likes a check-up, so if you look glum they'd probably assume that's it.
It's a very hurting place you're in right now ... I hope you get the help you need soon, so that you can become a mom.
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