recently pregnant - abortion soon - please help with questions -emotionally tough

**bellatink89** · 07-24-2010 03:32 PM

i talked to my doctor today - well the nurse about making my appointment.

my last period was june 16th. (prolly hadnt had sex for a good week or two before that) the next time i had sex after that period was july 3rd. and i havent had sex since then. i shoulda started my next period july 16th-18th and i didnt so yesterday i took a pregnancy test and the lines showed up instantly that i was pregnant. i have been having sex since i was 16. im now 21 and i have never been on any birth control - just used condoms.

i told the nurse all of this but originally as soon as i told her when my last period was on june 16th she said "I would consider you 6 weeks pregnant" which confused me but i know i can still be pregnant and have a period.
but she said unless youre about 6 weeks pregnant sometimes they cant see the embryo on the ultrasound. and if im really only 3 weeks pregnant what will happen is ill go in for an exam and if they dont see anything - they cant do the abortion - so its 125 for the exam. then ill have to come back in another 2 weeks and spend 385 for another exam and abortion too(if they see the embryo). if they do see something in the first exam they can do the abortion right then and there and its 385.

soooooo should i just have an exam now even though i think its only been 3 weeks? and just spend an extra 125 if they cant see the embryo - even though id rather not? (i only make 250 bucks a week, i live at home still - doing college - and cant use my insurance because my mom will kick me out for religious reasons. my whole family will alienate me if they found out) so ill be paying for everything out of my pocket in cash. my boss is basically my second mom and i know shell easily loan me the money. but please give me some sort of advice - anything will help. thank you much.

**WildChild** · 07-24-2010 04:42 PM

I'd wait the few extra weeks, it won't affect the procedure and you can be sure you won't be spending so much.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 07-24-2010 06:13 PM

Welcome to the Forum Bella.

I just wanted to agree with WC, that on a financial point of view, you would be better to wait a few weeks, also it's okay for you physically to wait a little longer. But emotionally, I note you put that into your heading and it appears the only reason why your aborting is because of family and what will happen if they were to find out.

Please therefore, see if there are people, perhaps your boss that can support you emotionally... It's never easy going through anything like this and know that we are here as well as a support for you.

I am sure that you probably haven't been on birth control for the same reason, your parents finding your pills, but you may wish to have a good think about that as well, as to where you can put them, safely so that your safer in the future.

Best wishes and let us know how you are.

CW

**bellatink89** · 07-24-2010 07:48 PM

chandlers wish - thank you so much for replying and wildchild too. but im not getting the abortion because of what my family will think if they found out that im pregnant. theyd be extremely upset either way- knowing them id say they would be more upset about the abortion. but i will tell them eventually. just not right now. the abortion is my choice. and always has been.

**bellatink89** · 07-24-2010 07:49 PM

so if i wait another two weeks and im "8" weeks pregnant, it wont complicate the procedure at all? am i gonna get morning sickness by then or any other sort of side effect?

**bellatink89** · 07-24-2010 07:52 PM

and the reason one of my bestfriends wants me to go asap - even if it just ends up being an exam is because i know its possible that i coulda been pregnant before and when i had my last period on june 16th and that i really could already be about 6 or 7 weeks pregnant.

**jns** · 07-24-2010 08:03 PM

Depending on the policies of where you are going, your college heath services fee may provide a benefit for abortion. Colleges should be very discreet about such things. It would probably be best to get counseling on such things so you know all of your options and possibilities.

**abracadabra** · 07-28-2010 11:41 PM

have you considered adoption? it really is great. my mother was 15 years old when i was born and i was adopted. when you do adoption the adoptive parents pay for everythibg, doctors visits and hospital bills. if my mother had aborted me, i wouldn't be alive now enjoying my own daughter. you should really give it some consideration.

**eliteanny** · 07-29-2010 04:49 AM

suggest me i m 12 week pregnant i want abortion in this stage can i go for it ????

**sourpuss** · 07-29-2010 09:39 AM

Originally Posted by eliteanny

suggest me i m 12 week pregnant i want abortion in this stage can i go for it ????

Depends on where you live, but I think 12 weeks is the cut off for that procedure. How did you get that far along before making this decision? Adoption is probably the choice you'll have to make at this point.