Make sure your boyfriend goes with you. He needs to know how this is affecting you and he needs to understand that he's in it just as much as you are. This kind of thing can really take a toll on a relationship and if you both want it to work, then he needs to go as well.
I think you gotta also 100% believe that what you did was the right thing. I know abortion is a controversial topic, but my belief is that it really shouldn't be - there have been SO many women in your exact situation who have gotten abortions and who have been very happy with the decision.
If you ever wanna talk privately, I'm very pro-choice (in fact perhaps even pro-abortion to be precise).
I am sorry you are in such distress.
There is so much media hype over abortion that it has become a far bigger issue than need be. Another perspective would that it is wrong to have a child that you did not plan for, cannot support and weren't seeking to have. You have done what is right for your situation, there is no need for guilt or shame over this.
Many anti abortionists are also anti birth control, anti any assistance to unwed mothers, really anti anything but following their particular belief system. Oddly they will act as if this is some sort of 'traditional' or time honored attitude, when it really isn't. Did you know that in the early American colonies they had a practice of leaving newborn infants out on a hillside for 3 days? If they survived it was considered god's will that they raise the child. This was a practice of our "god fearing' ancestors, surely making a choice early in pregnancy to terminate is far better. I certainly don't see anyone advocating this traditional practice be resumed. We have the ability to act far more safely and promptly now.
Do seek some emotional support and get educated on the correct use of conception control products so you can make a good choice for the future.
We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Mudoch, British writer
Give yourself some time to grieve and be gentle with yourself...Speaking from experience, I had an unplanned pregnancy at 19 (over 15 years ago) that ended in abortion. Try to see talk with a counselor for YOU. For years, I felt a silent loss and sadness because I didn't seek emotional support from others who might be able to help. It wasn't until I attended a retreat called Rachel's Vineyard I was able to get full closure with the situation. Check it out. My heart goes out to you.
thank i thing i need to do something like that tks alot
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