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Did not meen to place the happy face infront of abortion im knew here sorry
Abortion
I just had an abortion about 3 weeks ago and its the worst feeling ive ever had.The pregnency was a big surprise ,i told my boyfriend about it and he didnt want the baby from the beggining .I felt really pressured to have the abbortion because he was not going to be with me .And know this is all i think about idk what to do i feel like the worst person in the world .I dont talk about with anyone because it hurts so bad. Tks
Last edited by Fallen1; 08-16-2010 at 09:44 AM. Reason: Removed smilie face for O/P
Did not meen to place the happy face infront of abortion im knew here sorry
Granted you did something you felt was morally wrong, so you'll feel bad for it no matter what anyone says about it. But you aren't alone, doctors perform these procedures everyday for women in your situation so don't feel alone.
Are you still with your boyfriend? If you are I'd say you need to spend some time alone together and talk about this abortion, how its made you feel and how you need him to be reassuring and extra sensitive to your needs for while. Also what you will both do in the future, conserning children. Whether you want them at all or whether it is something he just doesn't want to experience.
THank you Iam with him i do love him but somethimes i just cant stand him because of the fact that he wanted the abortion so bad.I feel so guilty all i do is cry but tks for your words
well thats why I think you need to talk about children in your future... sounds to me from your post that you may want children in your future and if he doesn't then you need to think about where your relationship is going. I think feeling discust about the way he handled the pregnancy is normal, pressuring you and making you feel you had to chose between him and a baby wasn't right on his part IMO.
Yes i will talk to him about it in time because for now i cant its so hard even if he asks if im sad i just start crying.Somethimes i just dont say anything .It wasnt at all this is y i think i wont be with him for long.
Abortion is a traumatic experience whether you wanted it or not... You are NOT alone in your feelings, it hurts and it will probably hurt for a while. But eventually you will come to terms with what you did. It is normal to 'mourn' the loss and completely expected. It may be something you think about everyday for the rest of your life, certain events in your future may trigger more emotions because of what may have been. It's completely normal, but you have to figure out how to deal with it. It will get easier, it may take a while, but it will.
In regards to the boyfriend... Now is the time for a serious serious talk. Having sex can lead to pregnancy, regardless of what precautions the two of you take. If he is not willing to stand by the results of sex and if you two have different views on how to handle the outcomes, it may be time to give some serious thought to the future the two of you may have. You need to be able to stand your ground on your decisions.
Best wishes to you.
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May the fleas of a thousand camels infest the crotch of the person who screws up your day and may their arms be too short to scratch.
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Whoever said anything was possible obviously never tried slamming a revolving door.
I am very sorry. You did what you thought was right - and I agree with you. You feel guilty about this, but you would also have felt guilty about bringing a child into the world when you were not in a situation to properly care for it. It is a hard choice - and one you could make. Try to remind yourself that you honestly made the best choice you could given the situation.
thsnk you all for your kind words i will think about all this
I agree with rcorey. It's a hard decision, but try to forgive yourself for it. You did what was best for the situation at the time. Like I always say, women have abortions because they want to be good mothers and right now was not a time when you could have been the best mother you could be.
The doctor who performed the procedure will be able to get you in touch with people who offer counseling, I would highly recommend that both you and your boyfriend go to see them at least once.
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