Thread: dealing with pregnancy after miscarriage

I miscarried twins in March, and I am now pregnant again. I'm 9 weeks, and even thought I've already had two ultrasounds and seen the heartbeat and my dr. says everything looks good, I am terrified. I don't "feel" pregnant, I don't want to get excited, or even attached to the baby. For some reason I'm convinced I'm going to loose this baby too, that it's just a matter of time. I was wondering if anyone else who has had a miscarriage has also felt detached from and severely anxious about their next pregnancy. Does anyone have any advice that might help me relax and enjoy this time. I really don' t want to feel this way. I want to be happy and excited. My partner and I want children so badly and we've planned for it. I just don't feel it, I'm convinced there is something wrong, even though everything appears to be fine.

Hi Soapgirl. Its completely normal to feel the way you do. I have had 3 miscarriages and 1 successful pregnancy. I had 2 miscarriages before I had my son. When I was pregnant with my son, I wouldnt let myself get too attached until everything was absolutely forsure. Eventually, you will reach 12 weeks, then you will feel a kick. It will become real, and you can celebrate. I had another miscarriage after my son, and now I am pregnant again. Im only 5 1/2 weeks and I spent the last 2 weeks so scared that Im going to lose this baby. Then I thought, why not celebrate it? No matter my fear, our lil babies deserve to be celebrated! So I figure, Im not going to let doubt and the past define the future of my baby. But your pregnancy sounds successful! There is nothing better than a healthy heartbeat! Just try your best to enjoy it. And be thankful you dont have any morning sickness!