Trying Too Hard To Concieve???

**arhandcock** · 09-21-2010 07:46 PM

My fiance and I have been trying for a baby for 4months now. I quit my birth control 4months ago and have only been on birth control for about a year. I tried keeping a diary of my temperature every morning, track my ovulation, and make love as often as possible.
After love making I place pillows under my lower back and keep my legs lifted in the air throughout the night while I sleep. I did research on the internet and it said to build up sperm count by making love everyother night instead of every night, but we have a hard time doing that and end up making love everynight. During a month we probably do NOT make love a total of 2-3 nights in a month.
Are we doing something wrong? Am I infertile? He has two children so I know it is not him... Are we trying to hard or not hard enough?

**Mes T** · 09-21-2010 08:43 PM

Are you for sure ovulating? Concentrate the love-making during the 5 or so days before ovulation.

You're not doing anything wrong, but getting pregnant is not easy. So many things have to happen just perfectly. Keep at it!

**arhandcock** · 09-21-2010 09:36 PM

First of all thanks for the advice! I was told that my ovulation is on the 11th day after my menstrual cycle. So we have been trying to make love on every 11th day after my menstral cycle. Try every 5days after my menstral cycle? Thanks!

**Mes T** · 09-21-2010 09:39 PM

Okay if you ovulate on day 11, you should have sex during the week before that, so from days 4-12 or so (to include one day post ovulation). Also do try to "conserve" sperm and don't spend it all on days when you're not fertile!

Keep at it and enjoy yourself. Lots of couples have to try for a long time to conceive.