Am I still pregnant? (I'm desperate for advice, please reply!)
I am sixteen, and YES I have tried to conceive. Before you start lecturing me, let me tell you my story..
About February me and my boyfriend at the time (he's 20) had un-protected sex. I had all the symptoms, took a test, and it came back positive. I took another one, a week later, positive again. A couple of weeks later I took another one, and it came back negative. The doctor did a blood-test that was positive, decided to wait for an ultra-sound.
About two months later I came back for an ultra-sound. My cervix was soft, whatever's suppose to be purple was beginning to darken, and you could feel the baby. (Note the first thing the doctor did was feel my stomach, and gave me a big "Wow, yeah, let's go ahead and do an ultrasound.") Which, ended up being negative. The doctor was shocked, and told me that this could be completely normal, to just wait it out. (or, it could be a tubal-pregnancy which she hoped it was not.) I still had not had my period yet.
About a week or two later (about 3 months after I had my first + test in the beginning of Feb.) I started having these horrible pains in my stomach. I called my sister in-law and she told me to go to the emergency room. The nurse felt my stomach and said "I think this is the head.. Let's go ahead and get you an ultra-sound, if you're nice, they'll even give you copies." After the ultra-sound they took blood, etc and I waited it out. The nurse came in to tell me the ultra-sound was negative and it looked as if I wasn't pregnant. Which, I didn't understand at all.I haven't went to a doctor since. Which, I know, bad idea, but i'm not getting answers from them anyways. I do have these COMPLETELY HORRIBLE pains that hit me without notice. Their so bad I can't move until it goes away. On top of these I have pressure ("down there"), I've gained 10 lbs, my bra went from a C to a D, and foods I used to love make me run to the bathroom.
The only thing reassuring me is the TLC show "I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant". The doctor even added I could be one of these cases, so to take it easy. Yes, me and the boyfriend did try to conceive after we had the first negative test after the positives. Please understand that you cannot judge me upon my age, just like many of you I've waited on-end to take another test in the morning, I've felt the same disappointment when the tests started coming negative. You're perspective/feelings change after getting that first positive test. The excitement, the baby shopping, and the ideas make seeing that negative test A LOT harder on us. It makes you just want to have a baby, despite the circumstances, or how you get that baby, all you know is you want that dang thing! Lol.
Another thing that has crossed my mind, is hmm, can I get pregnant? Is there something wrong with me? I've taken fertility tests, or whatever they're called, and it said "Yes, you can get preggo, yippee!" Lol
All i'm asking for is positive outlooks, advice, similar stories that ended with a healthy baby, etc. I feel like i'm alone on this one. I do know about phantom-pregnancies, but do not think this is a case. I do still believe I am pregnant only because of the t.v show IDKIWP I mentioned up there, and because of instincts. Thank you so much for the replies!
I'm sorry I simply cannot encourage a 16 year old to get pregnant under any circumstances. You cannot get your information from TV shows. Get back to the doctor and find out what is going on with this situation. You need proper diet, vitamins and care, to have a healthy baby.
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Totally agree with WildChild. You need to go back to the doctors. You cannot just estimate whether you are pregnant or not. You need to find out in order to be prepared. Let us know what your doctor says.
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Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I'll try again tomorrow. - Mary Anne Radmacher
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If they are not finding a pregnancy on an ultra sound yet blood tests show you are pregnant, it could very well be ectopic....which is life threatening! You really need to go to a doctor.
And sorry, but yes, we can judge the situation. You're 16, he's 20. Depending on what state you live in, that is actually illegal. I understand wanting to be mature and grown up but 16 is just way to young and not to mention that this is not going well and you're not taking your health/life as serious as the situation demands.
You really need to get to a doctor and find out what is going on. In the mean time, please sit down and truly ask yourself why you want to have a baby at 16....and be honest with yourself. It's a HUGE, lifetime commitment and you haven't even finished high school.
In addition to your situation likely being illegal there is the part of you are not even done puberty. That alone can make it more difficult to become pregnant because in the eyes of simple biology you are still a "baby" and not fully grown yet including hormonal levels- please notice this is just the term used and I am not directly calling you a baby. As for the tests it is possible to be pregnant without fully knowing but those cases are very rare. The only way to know is to keep going to the doctor.Another thing that has crossed my mind, is hmm, can I get pregnant?
It is extremely difficult not to throw judgment around when you are 16 since you are not even done high school wanting a baby which will change everything in your life. Raising a baby requires more money than you will likely be making right now in whatever job you have...which I will assume you do have if you are even slightly considering having a child.
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I don't think it's right for ANYONE to judge the situation. You could be in a very good position to raise a child right now. For all they know, you could be more mature than alot of adults trying to have a kid! So more power to you sister! I'm sure you're not stupid. Surely you must know all the responsabilities and are ready for them. I'm sure your parents would be against this if you were immature. As far as your boyfriend goes, that is somewhat odd for a 20 year old to be interested in a 16 year old, but who are we to judge that?
You guys, all this girl wanted was help. Not judgement. And all of these comments were filled with judgement. My grandparents got married when my grandmother was 15, and my grandfather was 19. Same age difference as seen here. Times have changed, yes. But it's not like this has never been seen before. She is obviously scared and needs help or else she wouldn't of put this up on the internet, typed out her story and asked for help. I'm not saying encourage it. But you must understand she is simply NOT going to change her mind because of the judgement. This is what she has decided to do. So the only imput we should be giving is advice on what to do as far as solving the problem.
I hope everything goes well, sweetie! Let us know how it goes! I wish you the best of luck!
I agree with Its A Secret, but i don't think we are judging the girl herself, more judging the situation. Looking at it from both sides.
This girl is still 16 at the end of the day, and still very young.
She will have to make a lot of sacrifices if she has a baby at this age.
Its generally thought that most 16 year old's are still at school, and planning their future and college, not planning a family.
Most teen mums regret it, not regret the baby though, just the timing.
Think about it, that at her 21st birthday, she will have a 5 year old son/daughter and at 21 life is still only beginning, there is loads of time in the world to settle down and have kids.
Live Like There's No Tomorrow, Laugh Until The Pain Goes Away, And Love Like Nothing Else In The World Matters.♥.
I dont think breaking the law is very mature do you? I also dont think getting pregnant before finishing college is mature either. If someone was mature they would wait until the situation is right for bringing a baby into this world. A baby is a living being, not a dolly. It would be different if it was an accident. Sorry if its harsh, but thats my opinion. I wish her the best of luck but do not think its in any way ideal or mature.
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Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I'll try again tomorrow. - Mary Anne Radmacher
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Yes, it is immature for a 16 year old to be planning a family. But she wasn't asking for advice on if she should or should not try to concieve.
She has been given the advice she asked for and has been told she needs to go to the doctors. She needs to make sure she is safe.
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Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I'll try again tomorrow. - Mary Anne Radmacher
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