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  1. 10-02-2010 02:25 PM #1
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    Default Ectopic Pregnancy.. And confused!! :(

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    Right, i'm aware that this forum is mostly based for the American's so im sorry for the language barrier.

    I'm a 19 year old girl, currently at university (just began my 2nd year this week), or so i thought!

    I went to visit my GP last week to complain about my 20 day period, but he just led it down to stress.
    On Monday night, i was rushed to A&E with excrutiating pains in my lower abdomen. With a great deal of shock, they told me i was 9 weeks pregnant.. and it was ectopic! Tuesday morning i was deteriorating fast so i went into theatre to undergo surgery to remove the foteus, my right ovary and right fallopian tube.

    Fast tracking 4 days later, i am now here, at home. Everything has gone so quick this week i havent had a chance to sit down and think what has actually happened. I'm just crying everytime i get a minute to myself, without any reason why. I did'nt know i was pregnant so why do i have so much emotion towards it? I feel a bit gutted; like i want to try for a baby now to make up for it. I know it sounds silly. I'm even questioning myself why has it happened to me? How will this affect me in the future? I dont want to leave trying for a family into my late 20's in case i will never get the family i always dreamed of - they do say ur peak time for ovulation is in ur early 20's.

    During my stay at the hospital my boyfriend of 2 years only came to visit me twice - he didnt bother because he has a rally (car race) due in 37 days and his car isnt ready so he has been putting all his time and energy into the stupid thing!!

    I feel a bit lost, lonely and also a bit of an idiot - can anyone share their experiences with me or give their views on the matter?

    Anything would be appreciated
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  2. 10-02-2010 08:39 PM #2
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    Thankfully you are mending and getting healthy again. The pregnancy causes a lot of hormones to run around in your body, and that combined with the sudden termination and the surgery has you in an emotional state. It will get better better but it will take time.

    It sounds like your bf is a piece of work. He doesn't have the empathy, concern or maturity that you should be getting from him. I think you can do better unless he starts coming around soon. Would you like him being a part of your life for many year? He should be comforting you.
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    The way you are feeling is normal. It is a womens natural instinct to be saddened when we lose a child even if we didn't know we were pregnant. Now is the time your bf should be your supporter. I dont care if he has a car to get ready or not, you are more important and you need to make that known. Being without one of your ovaries and tubes actually will not effect your chances of getting pregant in the future. the womens body will make up for it. Its also not complete true that a womens pregnancy peak is in her early 20's. a women ovulates once a month until menopause, as long as you ovulate, thats all you need. The age of 30 is when risks of defects and what not rises so a women must pay more attention to their diet. You are still very young and have plenty of time to have children All you need to focus on is healing your heart right now and the rest will come
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    Your body, your hormones, and your emotions have been through a lot. Don't be hard on yourself for feeling sad about it. What happened to you was very serious and I'm so very glad you got it taken care of before it hurt you really bad. You're mourning....and that's normal.

    Your BF.........well....I don't have much nice to say about that. He participated in a pregnancy that could've killed you had it not been discovered....and he comes to visit twice because he has to work on a car? A mature, responsible, loving young man would have never left your side. Perhaps you should think about your future with this person and is he the kind of man you truly want in your life.

    Give yourself some time. It's okay to be upset. You'll get past this. Hang in there!
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