Thread: whats everyone's thoughts on teenage pregnancies?

I have seen that show before. It's main aim is to show teenage girls, that having a baby at 16.. isn't easy. But sadly some girls, as you said they idolize these young mother's.

I don't think it's fair to say that they are not good mother's though, unless you personally know of some reason why they are not.

I personally don't believe their is a right or specific age to have children, but there certainly is a right situation, ie, finacially able to support a child, mature enough to love and look after one and accept all the responsibilities it brings. And certainly to have a baby for the right reason's.

Personally I feel this show shows how hard it is. In most cases the guy doesn't stick around. Whether this show is on or not, teen pregnancies are going to exist. Pure mistakes and I don't feel it makes them a bad person or mother.

I don't know...I see a lot of women WELL over 18 who are still too narcissistic to have children, and yet they still have them. While I don't think you have to be of a certain age in order to have children, teenage girls are so, so young...they're not even old enough or have the means to independently take care of themselves yet...let alone a little one.

I am generalizing here, of course. There are always exceptions, I suppose.

When I was around 14, I watched some PBS special that showed a live childbirth. That was all I needed to a) wait until I was ready to have sex, and b) be VERY adamant about using some form(s) of birth control! All I have to say is, all of you ladies on here who have given birth, you are all amazing and incredibly brave people!

I'm a teen myself and have been pregnant twice, both ending up in miscarriages. I agree with the fact that we are just kids ourselves and being pregnant is a big responsibility for one that is young and not finacially able such as myself. We were dumb and didn't use protection a few times and we've paid for it twice over. Others though... they don't pay for it in a way.

Thing is, if they believe they're ready to have one, then they should have it. There are many girls in my school that have kids and have kept them. One of them is in our Honors Society, which means they have kept up their grades. It amazed me that she was able to do that.

Also, I came to terms, twice, that I would have no other choice but to keep it. It also killed me when I lost them because, I always wonder about a lot of things. Personally, I don't know if I'm ready and I don't know if I ever will be. I know it's hard, I'm not dumb but I'd rather go through with it than anything else. If it ever happens though and I'm still in school, I'd hope I'd be a good mother.

I have also seen the show, as well as the follow up show, "Teen Mom". And I completely agree with Lizzard! This show doesn't show how wonderful teen pregnancy is, it shows how hard and awful it can be. Most of the girls on the show don't finish highschool, and end up taking care of a baby without the help of the dad. They also struggle to buy the baby diapers and formula because they're so young. If I was 16, this show would deter me away from having children as a teen rather than make me want them! The purpose is to open up the eyes of teens to what sex can lead to! It makes it more real for them knowing people actually have to do this. And I also agree there is no right age to have a child, but there are right situations. There are so many things you want to have in place before you have one, and you also want to try and accomplish what you desire (education, career) before having to give them up like these teen mothers have.

Originally Posted by marmar86

I have also seen the show, as well as the follow up show, "Teen Mom". And I completely agree with Lizzard! This show doesn't show how wonderful teen pregnancy is, it shows how hard and awful it can be. Most of the girls on the show don't finish highschool, and end up taking care of a baby without the help of the dad. They also struggle to buy the baby diapers and formula because they're so young. If I was 16, this show would deter me away from having children as a teen rather than make me want them! The purpose is to open up the eyes of teens to what sex can lead to! It makes it more real for them knowing people actually have to do this. And I also agree there is no right age to have a child, but there are right situations. There are so many things you want to have in place before you have one, and you also want to try and accomplish what you desire (education, career) before having to give them up like these teen mothers have.

for the record i didnt say the show makes it seem like having babies at that age is wonderful n easy n amazing. i said that girls IDOLIZE them. like "im gonna get pregnant n get on that show" kinda thing. keep in mind teenagers dont realize what messages most adults would get out of it

I think some teenagers can be good mothers. I have personally seen some. yes they still go out and party, but they make sure their kids are well taken care of and their grades are up in school. One such gal had her baby at 17 and is going to graduate this school year (June). The father of course is a typical teenage boy when it comes to "staying with his family" and has cheated on her numerous times. But she still is sticking in there and her baby is healthy and happy. On the other hand I have seen some unbelievably irresponsible teenage mothers who need to be sterilized and educated! It's all about the individual. I do feel sorry for them though, they had their funnest years taken from them. But that's the consequences of sex and they learned the hard way! Stopping teenagers from having sex is like convincing a Sikh to eat meat!! lol While you cannot stop them, you can educate them, but do not nag them! The problem is lack of education.

Originally Posted by hello_pitty

I think some teenagers can be good mothers. I have personally seen some. yes they still go out and party, but they make sure their kids are well taken care of and their grades are up in school. One such gal had her baby at 17 and is going to graduate this school year (June). The father of course is a typical teenage boy when it comes to "staying with his family" and has cheated on her numerous times. But she still is sticking in there and her baby is healthy and happy. On the other hand I have seen some unbelievably irresponsible teenage mothers who need to be sterilized and educated! It's all about the individual. I do feel sorry for them though, they had their funnest years taken from them. But that's the consequences of sex and they learned the hard way! Stopping teenagers from having sex is like convincing a Sikh to eat meat!! lol While you cannot stop them, you can educate them, but do not nag them! The problem is lack of education.

thats what i would LOVE to see!! more education on the matter. having free condoms ect available in schools. that way they CAN BE SAFE. my heart goes out to young girls who dont get to enjoy being a kid because they end up having their own kid. it really does make me sad. i just wish that kids today could be more equipped and prepared so that they dont end up having a kid at the "wrong" time.