Help ! Help really really needed

**hockeylover** · 01-13-2011 12:28 PM

My bestfriend has been dating a girl since whenever he is a guy , and the girl he has been dating is my other friend shes twelve ..... over christmas holidays he went to her house and well they had sex.... now she may be pregnant , there parents will kill them if she is ..... like they had sex the condom didnt fit and was expired ..... she took five pregnancy testers fisrt two negative and the last three were positve ... what should they do ?! because like he doesnt want her to have a baby but he doesnt want her to abort it... and she cant buy more pregnancy testers because the town we live in is very small and the person who works where you get them has a big mouth

..... and she doesnt want it . and im am scared for the both of them.. please help thanks

**sourpuss** · 01-13-2011 02:45 PM

She needs to make an appointment with the local family planning clinic. She's pregnant. How old is your friend? 12 is pretty young, but I won't use this forum as my soapbox for that. She may think that her parents will 'kill her' but she's far to young to deal with this on her own.

**KMonte85** · 01-13-2011 02:59 PM

a 12 year old can't hide a pregnancy from her parents forever. And your statement that HE doesn't want her to have it, but doesn't want to abort it either shows that she needs some real help and guidance from an adult who can HELP HER.

She needs to go talk to them ...NOW. If she's too scared, she should speak with her school counsellor.

**WildChild** · 01-13-2011 04:00 PM

If she is truly scared to talk to her parents, and I'd bet she is, can she talk to your mother? Perhap she can go with her to talk to her parents?

She can't hide this long and the longer she waits the fewer options she has.

**hockeylover** · 01-13-2011 06:32 PM

Yes , i know she cant deal with this on her own. She already has talked to the school consellour. Im not trying to use this fourm as my soapbox , Im just looking for advice for them.

**sourpuss** · 01-13-2011 07:08 PM

I didn't mean that, I was just saying that I was going to bite my tongue on her age. I'm glad she's spoken with her counselor. Can you talk to your parents about it?

**hockeylover** · 01-13-2011 08:51 PM

Oh ok , my mistake. I know i find twelve very young too.. No I can't exactly talk to my parents about it, like i could talk to my mom to a certain extent . But not to the extent where its needed to be. So maybe I"ll talk to my aunt about it ... I really dont know what to do because like everyone is starting to find out , and like if her parents hear i dont know what they will do. because she has had alot of issuses with her mom

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 01-13-2011 11:39 PM

It's friends like you hockeylover that make the world go around

I'm glad you realised, Sourpuss was purely not wanting to get into the age thing and steering this thread, to where it belongs, your question, on help...

Do you know what her Councellor advised?

CW

**hockeylover** · 01-17-2011 11:54 AM

No I do not know what the councellour advised her.

**jellybean93** · 01-21-2011 06:11 AM

If you can find an adult you fully trust, and talk to them, and maybe have them talk with you, her parents, and her all together, it might be more helpful. A 12 year old can't hide pregnancy from her parents. There's just no way to do it, and abortion is not the answer. If she were able to speak to her parents in a controlled environment, she could discuss the possiblity of adoption.