Keep it? Rid of it? Adopt it?

**KaytiC** · 01-22-2011 03:04 PM

With whatever you choose to do, make sure that you think long and hard about it. Once the choice is made don't allow second thoughts to make you second guess yourself. You can be tortured for years with "what ifs" if you allow them. With whatever you choose know that it is what you thought was right for you, there is no set formula in life and no one but you can say what that is.

No matter what you choose do not let anyone else influence it, if you are still uncertain till week 23 then keep thinking. Let there be no uncertainties because there will be no going back for at least one of your choices.

I will be keeping you in my thoughts and I hope with whatever you choose it will bring you the most happiness.

**JustHormonious** · 01-22-2011 04:28 PM

You seem to be a very intelligent young lady. You've just found out that you're pregnant and were adult enough to speak to your parents about it. You do need to realize that your parents were just told and they need time to process this as well. Your mom did say the decision was up to you, and it should be. Your father also stated he would support your decision.

You are in school and becoming pregnant wasn't on this year's agenda, but an unplanned pregnancy is not the end of the world. No one can make this decision but you. What do you want? I hope you will take a little more time to think about what is best for YOU...

I do understand that the abortion pill has to be given no later than 49 days or 7 weeks. Do you feel that you have given yourself enough time, or are you feeling pressured? Take more time if needed and speak with your parents again, they may surprise you.

**EmsiWemsi** · 01-24-2011 03:50 AM

The only problem with adoption is i think i couldnt give it away. I wouldnt have the heart to do it, i'd want to take him/her home with me! In regards to being a bit skivvy, in our country it's all the same. People dont look beyond your achievements and goals in life, if your on benefits then your a poor excuse. I know that's a bit harsh to say as well. But the way i could see it, i've paid my way in this country, paid my NI and taxes since when ive had part time jobses when i was 16, so it's like im getting the money back now. But by having a house etc just goes to a new level. People will deffinetley brand me a skivvy. In regards to pressure, i do feel very pressured. I just dont have a clue what to do. And im trying to do what's right by not just me, but the baby and everyone around me.

**Little.Chuck** · 01-24-2011 07:15 AM

Who cares what people think? If you have paid your way and now need a little bit of help for a while, take the help you are entitled to. This is what it is there for. There are people who will disagree with every one of the three decisions you have. YOU need to decide what is best for YOU and your baby, regardless of what other peoples opinions are.

**Dragongiraffe** · 01-25-2011 02:12 AM

You seem to know already what you want, deep down, I think you are just to scared of doing it. It will all fall into place, Emsi, trust me ! As long as the decision is right for you, to h**l with ANYONE else ! I believe you could not give the child away you carried for 9 month, and it tells me you are a caring person, so don't be frightened, use the financial help available, and when you found your feet you can get on with life, go again to Uni, qualify and get a job, and then come back here and tell everybody "I MADE IT ", and maybe even help someone out in similar circumstances. I think you would like the child but are scared because of how to manage it all. It is not as confusing and difficult as you thibk it is...little steps, Emsi, make a mile too ! Listen to your heart and then act ! It will be right and ok, I am sure of it. As long as it feel right to you, you will manage and find a way of juggling all the balls (money, uni, living, baby, childcare). Trust yourself Emsi, you know what you can do !!!!!!!!!!

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