I had my first child at 33 and my second at 36. They are both nearly grown, very healthy and very intelligent. I had no problems with either pregnancy. Risk of birth defects depend on many factors; general health and genetics of both parents, lifestyle choices, and even your emotional state. Did you know that a highly stressed pregant woman's body will draw chemicals from the fetus? And that can affect the baby's future health and emotional state? Having a child with a man who doesn't want it would be pretty high stress.

The concern over downs is often based on the mother's age, but the age of the father is just as much a factor.

You have far more time than you think you do, so relax a bit. Even if you were to leave this relationship, you shouldn't be thinking of a baby with the first man who comes along and says he is willing to impregnate you. That is unless you are willing and able to raise and support a child entirely on your own. Take some deep breaths and consider, how much do you want this man in your life? Or is it that you just want a man in your life? Or is it that you just want a baby? Children are full time job 24/7 if you are going to do a good job. There are no do-overs or second chances. Speaking as a single mom, having been one with younger kids and now with older kids, it isn't easy. Marrying when you have children is even harder, its not just how the two of you get along but how he and your children do. That can get really hard.

In truth, these days, I think women should always consider the possiblity of being a single parent before they have children. Even if you have a strong relationship. What will happen if he dies or walks out or you decide you need out? Can you support a child on your own?

Whatever you do, DO NOT, just get pregnant without his consent. This really a very wrong thing to do. Even if you never tell him or ask for any support, someday your child will be asking who their father is or there could be a health issue that needs that contact.

I understand that you feel the clock is ticking but there is a lot to consider, don't be rash or hasty.