scard i won't become pregnant

**jessgomez28** · 03-03-2011 12:27 PM

I want to get pregnant but am afraid that i can't. I have 2 kids already 8 & 9 yrs old. In the past ive had ovarian cycsts, and ive had a leep done before. after my children. When i was with my exhusband we tried for about 3 yrs and nothing. Not sure if its me or was him. Now ive been with my new love for 2 yrs. we've tried now for 2 months and nothing. My period comes every other month now also. It was regular but for the last 4 or 5 months its been like this. Im worried i won't be able to come out preggo.

**GlossyT** · 03-04-2011 10:32 PM

It might not exactly be what you want to hear, but if I were you I would take a few months off of focusing on trying to concieve and just get to know your body. What your cycles are doing, read up on how to track when you're ovulating. You might not ovulate as soon as normal since your cycles have been longer lately. Now Im not saying use condoms or something to prevent it, just relax a little, have fun with the process, and concentrate more on your body to know what its doing. It has only been 2 months. Believe me, everytime I get my period or see a negative HPT I can get sad. But this rarely happens on the first or second try for many many people.
Hang in there girl and I hope you geta new bundle of joy in a while.

**GlossyT** · 03-04-2011 10:34 PM

It prob. wouldnt hurt to make an appt. with your OBGYN to see if there's anything goin on too at some point.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 03-05-2011 12:52 AM

And fear, coupled with trying so hard, then realising it didin't happen, means you are NOT having intimacy, feeling love, letting it all flow, you're having sex to have a baby and stressed, do you believe that works? I don't

I know of people that tried for 3, 4 years nada...Gave up, just enjoyed being together sexually and had a child, a year later another...

If you believe something won't happen it won't...

Relax...Enjoy each other .........and yes, see a OBGYN to confirm that you actually can. As, well as your man..

Best wishes.

**Darling** · 03-17-2011 08:45 PM

Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH

And fear, coupled with trying so hard, then realising it didin't happen, means you are NOT having intimacy, feeling love, letting it all flow, you're having sex to have a baby and stressed, do you believe that works? I don't

I know of people that tried for 3, 4 years nada...Gave up, just enjoyed being together sexually and had a child, a year later another...

If you believe something won't happen it won't...

Relax...Enjoy each other .........and yes, see a OBGYN to confirm that you actually can. As, well as your man..

Best wishes.

This helped me loads thank you!

**lovelovelove** · 03-23-2011 12:14 PM

I am scared i can't get pregnant either. I have had maybe 3-4 miscariages. In the past three years. What could the problem be? Or could it just be the males?