Would I Be Looked at Differently???

**Maximus** · 05-12-2011 06:43 AM

Since you have decided to go full term, then the first person to speak to is the guy.
Have a long and thorough discussion with him.
You might be surprise how it takes it.
In any cases, he is the one to walk through this with you.

As you embrace the situation, this becomes a blessing.
And even if the people around take more time to get where you are, they will eventually.
I strongly believe that the Universe wants us to succeed and be happy.
And on event like this, there is far more "intervention".

In parallel to this, you also need to start looking to the practical side of things.
Here we call it "Planning Familial". It's an organization that provides all kinds of support for young mothers (psychological support, financial, counseling, and all the things necessary for the baby).

God bless...
V.

**Agony_Aunt** · 05-12-2011 11:49 AM

I've had no morning sickness at all, no weight gain, no sore boobs, nothing. No symtoms of being pregnant at all.

Abortion is illegal in Ireland, so that probably won't be suggested by the guy. But I told my closet friend today, at first she was shocked. But I chose to tell her because I knew she would be supportive and realistic about the situation. She asked me had I told my parents or they guy or anyone else, I said no. She offered to be there with me when I tell both, if I wanted her to be.

I haven't smoked since I found out, and feel guilty because last weekend I went out and had a few drinks, but I didn't know I was pregnant then.

I've decided to tell they guy first so that when I do tell my family, I will know whether I have his support or not.
I've calmed down now from the initial shock and starting to think more rationally now about it.

I called the guy today, said we need to meet up tomorrow and talk. So he will be told then. I'm nervous about it.
Keeping hoping I have his support because after all it is his baby too.

**Texinator** · 05-12-2011 12:07 PM

Best of luck with telling him as well as with telling your parents. I really hope everyone does the right thing and gives you the support you deserve.

**LanaBear** · 05-12-2011 12:44 PM

Awww sweetie! I'll be thinking of you! It's a tough situation, but it isn't your fault! You "thought" you were protected, just as you should have thought.

Let us know how it goes!

**Agony_Aunt** · 05-12-2011 12:52 PM

Thank You Tex & Lana.

I will let you know how it goes. Unbelievably nervous.

Also got my letter in the post today, my app for my ultrasound is next Thursday, I'm hoping that will help it all sink in for me. And would love my mother to be there with me. It's all just so scary and I need the support.

**Beautiful Disaster** · 05-12-2011 01:23 PM

I think you'll get your parents support. Their reaction will most likely be difficult, but know that's temporary....you're THEIR baby and of course they're going to feel shocked. Be patient with them, and I think in due time you'll have their support and all will be will in the world.

Talking to the guy first I think is a good idea. He does deserve to know.

No matter what happens, at the end of the day, you have our support. Behind the words we're people that do care about you and want the best for you and the little one (who is going to be absolutely BEAUTIFUL by the way....

)

**Agony_Aunt** · 05-12-2011 06:55 PM

Grrr, I had my whole big reply wrote out and when I went to post it I was signed out and tried signing in and it didn't post..

Going to try write this one a little shorter and quicker.

They guy phoned back this evening and said he couldn't make it 2maro, because he was busy, but he was able to call up this evening, if I was free.
I knew I couldn't keep putting it off, so he called up.

I told him to just pick me up at my house and we'd go for a drive, because if he was going to take this badly, I didn't want to be outside my house for all to see.

We barely spoke on the drive, until he pulled in. I just blurted it out that I'm pregnant because I didn't know how else to say it to him.
He didn't say anything and just held his head in his hands then got out of the car and walked about.
I started crying in the car because of his reaction and because he hadn't said anything to me after I told him.
He eventually got back in and told me that it was going to be all right. He asked me when I found out, and had then asked why I didn't tell him on Tuesday when I found out first. Asked if my family knew, I said No. We talked and he said he would be there when ever I wanted to tell them, and that he couldn't have me do that on my own. Think that's because he is friends with my father tho.

I asked him not to tell his partner. Not asking him to lie to her about having a baby with someone else but just to respect my privacy about it for now. Was I right in asking that? I know this puts him in a difficult position with his new partner.
We agreed that he's come up on Saturday, and tell my family. I also asked for him not to tell his family, until my family knew about it.
I don't want them to be the last to know.

Was so nervous this evening, but now I'm relived I have his support. But I know I will be a nervous wreck on Saturday again.

**LanaBear** · 05-12-2011 07:06 PM

You have his support, that is SUCH a good thing! I'm glad you got to tell him, I'm glad he will be there for you.

His partner situation, tricky. Yes, it is his privacy, but, it's also his baby... That is a tough order for him to follow in regards to not telling his partner, that, ultimately needs to be his decision. However, I do understand your reasoning and hesitation, this is all new, still hasn't absorbed in.

Hugs!

**Agony_Aunt** · 05-12-2011 07:15 PM

I have no problem with him telling her, but just not yet. I need my family and his family to know first.

I don't know hot this is going to affect his new relationship, I said that to him earlier, that I didn't want this to cause problems for him and his new partner, but he said that it's the baby which is most important now.
He was in shock but he seemed to take it a lot better than I had imagined he would. I thought for some reason he would be angry, but he was wactually quite calm and reasonable.
Now I just have to get through Saturday. And I'm still in shock at how much my life has changed in 2 days!!

**LanaBear** · 05-12-2011 07:19 PM

Awww.. Gotcha, yeah, totally agree.

If it doesn't work out between him and her, oh well, he sounds like he's got his head on straight. His baby is most important in his eyes.

Keep your chin up!

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