(Not sure if this is the right place, but) Paranoid about pregnancy?

**pictureframeesque** · 05-29-2011 06:44 AM

Hey there! So, I was wondering, how do you get over being paranoid about being pregnant.

Just some background: My boyfriend and I are both 18, we've never actually had sex, but we've done things like dry hump, fingering, etc. The only time I've ever had his penis anywhere near me was when I laid on him and he was naked, that was about it, and if it is, it's not near my vagina.

Anyway, we fool around from time to time, generally just fingering and getting off in that kind of way, when we get him off, we make sure to change the blanket that we use when he gets off, we dry hump and stuff, but normally I'm in pants or at least my panties and I doubt sperm can penetrate that many layers of clothing. When he wants to get me off, I make sure we change the blanket and he has to go wash his hands, no questions asked.

My question is, how can I stop being so paranoid about getting pregnant? I'm always worried that there will be pre-cum or something I've touched, then gone to touch myself, and something along those lines will happen, or sperm will come out when we dry hump. (Etc, etc. Just things like that.) I'm on the pill, and we always make sure that there isn't anything with sperm around me, but like I always feel like I'll get pregnant the day after, like right now, I'm freaking out.

Should I be worried about being pregnant at this point or is it pretty safe to say it's not gonna happen? (I'm sorry this is stupid. I know you can't get pregnant unless a sperm gets in and fertilizes the egg, but I just need reassurance.)

Thanks so much! Sorry it's a bit TMI.

**jessie1234** · 05-29-2011 08:02 AM

i think you are being paranoid... the sexual things you are doing have a 1 in 100000000000000000000000 chance of getting you pregnant... dont want to say zero cuz weird things have happened before i suppose. however if you are also on the pill i think i am safe to say there is absolutely no chance you will get pregnant. stop worrying and enjoy a bit more! with all that worrying you must not be able to enjoy the activities very much.

**WildChild** · 05-29-2011 09:45 AM

You are on the pill?
Sweetie, what do you think the pill does?
My goodness, I had a ton of sex while on the pill back in the days before we were all worried about STDs so we didn't use condoms and I never got pregnant actually having intercourse.
I think you need to educate yourself. I assume you are in the US? What we have passing for sex education in most of the US is so abysmal that it would almost be better not to bother. You aren't the first young woman we've had who is this hyper concerned. The type of activity you are engaging in is low risk for pregnancy as it is, even without the pill. With the pill taken properly, it would be nearly impossible for you to end up pregnant with this type of activity, even if you were having intercourse your risk would be very low. That is why women take the pill.

Educate yourself.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 05-29-2011 03:43 PM

Isn't it amazing when we do all the things right, to ensure something doesn't happen, yet we spend all our time worrying that it will?

You have to now let it go, condition your mind, that you are doing all the right things and enjoy your time with your boyfriend...

Or you'll drive yourself crazy.

Ask yourself as well if there are other things that you obsessively worry about? If there is, google obsessive compulsive disorder and see if that fits in.

If it's only pregnancy you are worried about, quit it

You are on the pill..

**Mes T** · 05-29-2011 03:55 PM

I agree with the others - education!

Go go go! Forget about anything offered to you in school, go out get some books, do your own research.

Women take the pill so they can have intercourse without worrying about pregnancy. But you're not even having penetrative sex!

Sperm aren't superhero mutants that can leap from someone's fingers, onto you, go through your clothing, and then somehow bypass the effects of the pill (which is near impossible in and of itself).

If you ever plan on having intercourse while on the pill, you can use a condom as well just to help ease your fears, not that you would need to. But it could help to actually SEE that you're being protected.

Honestly hun, breathe, relax, read a book on sex...

And have fun! You are responsible, and you are protected. No babies for you.