Ectopic pregnancy

**chaya** · 06-01-2011 12:15 PM

I just came back from the doctor. She said I have an ectopic pregnancy. From previous trauma and an operation, I only have one ovary and one fallopian tube. The tube is on the right side and the ovary is on the left so I was told I could never have a normal pregnancy but there was a very very slim chance of an ectopic pregnancy. Because of this, we never have used any contraception.

I have been having sharp pains in my lower right side for the last 3 days. I dismissed it as gas or cramps. It is near my period, my last period was non existent but that happens to me often. Usually after a very light or non existent period the next one is heavy with a lot of cramps. Last night after sex the pain got much worse. I spent an hour in a hot bath which helped a lot. I didn't tell my husband, I was afraid he would think he hurt me so I never let him know when I have pain from sex.

This morning when I was just about ready to go to school, the pain got so bad I could hardly stand up. I called our family doctor and got an appointment. I had to rush to make it and after an examination and blood tests, he told me i was pregnant. An inside ultra-sound verified it was an ectopic pregnancy. He said it hadn't developed enough to cause an emergency and might even be resolving itself. I can either have an injection of methotrexate, which he said should work in my case. OR I can have surgery to remove it. I have go back Friday for more blood tests and to decide which procedure would be better. My husband don't know yet, I know he will be very upset and i hope it doesn't consider it is his fault.

**jns** · 06-01-2011 07:49 PM

Sorry to hear about this. I am wishing you the very best on the outcome.

**ren_07** · 06-01-2011 08:17 PM

What are the odds, huh?

It's a good thing you took this seriously by getting to the doctor and discovered the pregnancy early. You'll be feeling better in no time.

God bless and best of wishes for how your husband handles this. You'll have his support soon enough.

**chaya** · 06-02-2011 04:43 PM

It's over, I had laparoscopic surgery last night after the pain got so bad I couldn't stand it. They had to remove the fallopian tube but it shouldn't interfere with future IVF procedures. My husband was freaking out through the whole thing. Once he said to me that he was "so sorry he did this to me". I yelled at him and told him he didn't do this to me and he should never blame himself.

I had to stay in the hospital last night, they released me this morning. They said I could go to school next week as long as the bleeding had stopped. I'm was getting a little vaginal bleeding but it is almost stopped already. Also, NO SEX until my checkup/evaluation in 2 weeks, that will be HARD for me.

My husband drove me home from the hospital. I had to pee so bad I couldn't hold it and messed up my car seat. He said he would take it to a place that would clean it up as good as new. I must have still been full of fluid from all the IV's they gave me. I have a dressing on the incision that has to be changed twice a day, other than that I can move around the house with little discomfort.

**WildChild** · 06-02-2011 06:38 PM

I'm sorry you had to go through this but glad to hear that you should soon be healed and that IVF is still an option. Perhaps over the next two weeks you can find some creative ways to bond and arouse?

**Mes T** · 06-02-2011 06:44 PM

Oh many HUGS to you dear, your husband sounds very sweet and supportive too...

I hope you feel better soon, keep us updated?

**jns** · 06-02-2011 10:48 PM

Glad you are feeling better now and can still do IVF in the future. Explain why you yelled at your husband to him as he may not understand but won't say anything. Take your time and get well. Good luck.

**chaya** · 06-03-2011 02:33 PM

Originally Posted by jns

Glad you are feeling better now and can still do IVF in the future. Explain why you yelled at your husband to him as he may not understand but won't say anything. Take your time and get well. Good luck.

I yelled at partly because I was afraid he would blame himself and he was doing it; and partly because I still hadn't fully recovered from the anesthesia. I think he still blames himself even though he says he don't.

**Beautiful Disaster** · 06-03-2011 02:57 PM

He probably does feel bad. Because he's human and has a good heart. He's as much responsible for pregnancy as you are. So try to understand that he's going to grieve in his own way over what happened to you. He obviously loves you alot.

So very glad you're okay though sorry you had to go through it. You sure are a fighter!

**chaya** · 06-06-2011 11:41 AM

I had to call the doctor about the discomfort in my abdomen. It seems like more that just sore around the incisions. It is a heavy, pressing pain all over my lower abdomen. At first I thought it was just an intestinal upset caused by the antibiotics. Now I think it might be more serious.

I didn't go to school and have an appointment this afternoon. My husband is at work and I'm thinking of calling him because I'm afraid to drive myself and I've been taking the pain pills they gave me.