Thread: Pregnant or not?

Starting my response from your first post:
Your boyfriend is full of it You might gain 8 lbs for any reason! As far as "symptoms," they don't manifest until AFTER a pregnancy test would come out positive ... it's been a while since I've been at that stage of pregnancy but I think it's around 5-6 weeks after your last period (which is how pregnancies are counted by many doctors.)
As far as cravings, I get cravings all the time and always did. Though to be fair, I did start basically drinking rice vinegar before I knew I was pregnant. So really, that could be anything.
Regardless of other people's reactions to getting pregnant on the Depo shot, you need to protect yourself unless you're trying. It's unclear to me whether you're still protected by the shot or not, based on your posts. I see that he is your fiance and you want a child, but given the opportunity, it is so much fun to plan when your child's birthday might be, what season he might be born in, and have a little money socked away for it
A pregnancy test shouldn't cost much. Something I learned the hard way: Like name-brand drugs that have the same ingredients as generic, dollar-store pregnancy tests work just as well as the high-dollar "ept" stuff. The best design is one with two parallel lines; they are the easiest to read. Plus-sign tests have a chance of bleeding ... they might look like a faint positive when in reality they are a negative.
You say a lot about your relationship in this thread, I think without meaning to! Though you are going to be married, your finances are not combined? It's very hard to determine how high on the hog you can live your life unless you can spend and save together. Personally, I found it extremely encumbering to pay bills out of two incomes in two bank accounts. Dave Ramsey has something to say about married couples who separate their finances (if you follow him, I think he's good with a grain of salt.) He says there is something to hide. Maybe now, at the beginning of your relationship, he is hiding his insecurity. But in the future? With a child, you will have to use both of your incomes - the child is both of yours! Best to practice now. I believe most banks have an option to open a joint account where BOTH listed members must sign for any withdrawal - a good way to sock away money without getting robbed blind if it all goes bad.
Depending on where you are living in the country, $11.50/hr can be quite good ... or quite bad. Total up both of yours' annual income. Compare it to the limit to get food stamps, WIC, Medicare, etc. That won't tell you whether or not to have a child, but it will give you an idea of what amount of income the government thinks you should have to raise one.
If I read right that you were protected by the Depo shot during this cycle, you're right ... it's highly unlikely that you are pregnant now. But as a young mother of a planned baby, I want to give you a little food for thought
Lastly, I do want to say something about child care - check it out in your area before you plan to supplement your income with waitressing. Most "good jobs" these days don't come with regular hours (the hours daycares are open!) so, unless you have family nearby who can watch the child at all hours, you may find yourself up a creek.

At the end of the day, you can never be ready enough to have a child! There's always a variable ... like you could be ready to quit your job and be a SAHM after your FMLA leave is up, then your husband gets laid off! (true story!) You could plan all day long, but as the religious say, if you want to hear God laugh, tell him your plans! Let us know how the test goes if you choose to take one, and I hope my comments make you think, not offend you.

To add to what Little and CW have told you in regards to pregnancy tests, I once thought the same thing: TOO EXPENSIVE! That was before I discovered the "Dollar General Store HPT" Lol!! Seriously....you can buy a $1 test or you can buy a $6 test. Those are the generic ones. And they work just fine.

Well I have good news, I asked my fiance to buy me a test because I missed my period, it was suppose to be two weeks ago but I never had it. I have no clue but I took two test, one had a dark line and the other barely visible, second test was the same but the second line was alittle darker. just to be safe I'm taking the last test tomorrow morning. I only took the two test today because I was so sick to my stomach from late last night till this after noon. But my friends say I'm positive but one more test and if it's the same I'm taking a trip to the doctor...ugh oh well it will be worth it.

Yep, a faint line is still a positive. A faint line means less concentration of the pregnancy hormone in your blood ... which could mean that you tested early, or that something more serious has happened. Go ahead and make the appointment with a doctor. In most offices, it takes a while to get in. You can always cancel later, though you will want to figure out why you got that faint positive, or at least get it put in your "file."

Captain Lej..
I owe you an apology for the way I worded my thoughts. CW is correct in " Moms Huh " ? I am a Mother of 4, albeit all grown now. The Strength in my words, may have sounded very harsh to many.

They were not intended to hurt you or have my experiences shoved down your throat, so to speak, as the only possible Advise. I should have been gentler in what I said or at least given you some of my background.

I truly have vast experience in young women that are or have been pregnant. I was a Crisis Counselor for a few years for young Women and Men. I was a Foster mother to homeless and pregnant teens and young women for almost 20 years.

I most likely miss~read into something you had said about your Fiance seeming to really want you to be pregnant and it seemed to me ( again, most likely wrong ) that you weren't too excited about the possibility. This was based on the Plea to help convince him you weren't pregnant.

I hope you will forgive my " Motherly Advise" that was a rather severe reaction from concern and caring about any young woman that finds themselves in a situation that they seem distraught over. I seriously was willing to donate or pay for a Pregnancy test for you ! Anonymously of course, as I have before several times.

If you are Pregnant, I wish you the best for yourself and your baby and your baby's father.
You show Wisdom in already making the decision not to work in a factory if expecting. That shows the fact that you will be a Good Mother, from the starting gate.

Thank you babygirl, sometimes the harsh things are what we need to heard but just can't do and yes I found out friend I am, roughly around 7wks, I'm very excited and a lot of my family are happy some disappointed but that will always happen, but seeing as we're still younge I always believe having a baby helps you learn to grow up and start working on the stuff like money and other things. So don't worry

Congratulations! While you're young, you're not so young that you can't support yourself or your child. Enjoy yourself