Need a bit of support...
Hello, I am newI have just found out I am pregnant. Under normal circumstances that news would thrill me and it does now but is been put in a shadow with all the things I am stressing about. It was an unexpected suprise to put it nicely
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No reason you can't breastfeed even if you're not home with baby. Get yourself a pump and keep bottles pumped to leave for the baby at the sitter.
4 months of maternity leave is actually quite nice!
Have you thought about getting into couponing? It can be fun, a challenge, AND save you lots of money ESPECIALLY on things like wipes and diapers etc.
Congrats on baby #2.
"Be what you're looking for."
"The next time you're thinking of kicking someone when they're down, offer them your hand and help them back up instead."
Like BD said, 4 months is actually quite nice. Here women who have a baby vaginally are generally back to work in 6 weeks and 10 weeks when have a c-section. I was back at 10 weeks for both of mine.
No reason to worry about not breastfeeding. Again, like BD said, get a breast bump and send bottles along with the baby, you can even freeze your breast milk.
Don't feel like you are robbing your son by having another child. Definitely not the way to look at it. You are giving him a sibling who he will be able to play with and have a lifetime of memories with.
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May the fleas of a thousand camels infest the crotch of the person who screws up your day and may their arms be too short to scratch.
Amen
Whoever said anything was possible obviously never tried slamming a revolving door.
4 months is a good amount of time to get your milk supply good and established, as well as to get a freezer stash going! Fair warning: pumping is hard work. Get a good breast pump, it will save you a lot of frustration! And remember that breastfeeding doesn't have to be an all-or-nothing affair. Most women can keep a supply going by only nursing a few times a day - after you get home from work or on the weekends - especially after establishing a good supply.
Cloth diapers are a good way to save money - you can usually pay about $300USD for the whole kit and caboodle to use from newborn to potty training. This is compared to a cost of $1000USD for disposable diapers over the same course of time (if you use the cheapo diapers. If not, that can go up to as much as $4000!) OF course, with cloth you have to pay for the water and detergent to wash the diapers, but I don't think that will cost you the $700+ difference. If you breastfed your first child, you know that breastfed babies' poops wash right away!
Though it seems like a poor choice to have another baby now, think about the future: your son will have a lifetime friend. He will learn to share, to live with someone else. He will have someone looking up to him, making him consider better choices. When he grows up and has children, they will have an aunt or uncle! He will have the opportunity to be an uncle himself. And when you grow old, he will have help taking care of you. And when you're gone, he'll have someone to share those precious memories with. You simply can't replace the bond between siblings. He'll forgive you for any extras you couldn't afford to buy him ... you can't buy all the positives that siblings bring.
Thank you
Thank you for all the beautiful words, the beauty of the way you described siblings is just amazing. Thank you so much. I am feeling a lot better.
I had no idea 4 months was good for maternity leave. I was comparing it to the 6 months in England and 2 years in Sweeden. Well its all about perspective i guess
Do u mean govt paid maternity leave? Sweeden France England have it so good. It's getting better here (aus 18 weeks) I honestly couldn't do kids in the states unless my partner was on good money, it just seems so unfair to have such little time with your newborn baby.
If I knew where I was going I would already be there
I wish I had more time. Judicious, beautiful, augmented, whatever.
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Maternity leave here in New Zealand can be up to a year, but only the first 4 months are PAID. So I guess like in most countries of the world, a woman can take as much maternity leave as she wants... if she has the funds to do so. I don't know about the Swedish law but if those 2 years are paid then wow. I'm moving to Sweden when I'm having a baby.
Heh, in the US, many women aren't even guaranteed leave. If you have worked full-time at your job for over a year and they are a larger company (they have to have more than 75 employees, I think,) you are guaranteed an "equal" position at the company back for 12 weeks (some states give you more.) But there's no pay unless your company gives it to you, like for short term disability. That only lasts 6-10 weeks, like Lana mentioned.
So, if you're working part-time and have a baby, you could lose your job if you're not back the next day. Even if you're covered by FMLA (the law I just summarized that includes maternity leave,) they can give your specific job away and give you something less. Nothing you can do about it except sue. My old workplace gave my job away while I was on leave! Good thing I wasn't planning on coming back.
How's everything progressing, Etsy?
Well that is all really interesting. We get four months paid maternity and then I am going to take a month of my paid leave so I will get to be home for 5 months. We dont
have the option of taking unpaid and coming back to your job. So I am happy about that, just feel so guilty that I will not give the same to number 2 as what I gave to my
son. But I guess there is not much I can do about it other than win the lotto! Have not told anyone our news yet, My mom is in England at the moment with my sister
who has just had her number 2. So feel its only right to tell our family first. Time is flying already and it does not really feel real yet. Feeling a lot more positive now though and
thinking of what a fantastic big brother my son will be. Exciting really
Yes you will it's called love and I can tell you have a whole lot of it
Don't stress finances are tight with everyone, congratulations, it will be okay..
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
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