Starting To Get Sad....

**DSemcho** · 10-08-2011 11:06 AM

So at the beginning of the year, on March 1st, I found out I was 5 weeks pregnant... I lost the baby 5 days later. But now I'm starting to get sad because I'd be in my 37/38th week right now and I would be expecting my bundle of joy any minute. I can't talk to my husband about it because he wouldn't want to hear it, and I don't have many people at this base I can talk to about this without them trying to console me in a way that doesn't help when you have infertility issues.. I'm not sure if I'm going to do okay with the coping, especially since there is a girl I know back at our last base, and we found out we were pregnant the same day and were the same amount along.... Any suggestions on how to help this feel better?

**Little** · 10-08-2011 11:35 AM

I'm sorry for your loss. Even an early miscarriage can (and, IMO, should be) a real blow, especially if you have to watch somebody else grow "your" pregnancy.
Often a miscarriage does not indicate any inability on your part to carry a pregnancy to term. You've probably heard that before, but it's good to dwell on the possibilities of the future instead of the disappointments of the past.

I personally dealt with my miscarriage by getting pregnant again, but I assume this isn't an immediate possibility for you because you mention infertility issues. Remember that trying to conceive is stressful, even if it's not supposed to be. You're not alone.

Has your doctor said anything definitive about the miscarriage or your infertility? Has he offered you any diagnosis or solutions?

**DSemcho** · 10-08-2011 11:59 AM

That also my husband is saying he isn't ready to have a baby. I moved 4 weeks after my miscarriage to Turkey, so no.... And the infertility is a yes, I've only gotten pregnant once in 5 years. And that's having almost only unprotected sex. b