I am new to this site and I can see that I am not alone when it comes to dealing with the whammies life is throwing at us. My husband and I have been together for 8 years and married 4 of them. After a year of trying to get pregnant, I finally got pregnant and also lost the baby in my 9th week in April. We were totally devistated!! It took weeks before I could hear "I'm sorry" with out crying my eyes out. After my DNC, I have been spotting (what seems like eternity). I had my regular period at 5 weeks and then spotting again. I have been put on hormones and the pill and still spotting. The Gyno says my body just has to work itself out. In the mean time....the spotting just keeps on reminding me of what I have lost! I also have a friend who got pregnant a week before me and our due dates were a week apart. Every time I see her, I am also reminded of what has happened. I have regular dreams of me losing the baby over and over again. How long has it taken those of you who have had a miscarriage to get through it. I am wondering should I see a therapist? I feel like this is dragging me into a hole. Any advice?????
Hi r-tistic
Sorry about how things have turned out for you but you know everything happens for a reason and when its truly your time god will bless your lifes with that little bundle of joy my boyfriend and i have also been trying and trying to have a baby but it hasnt happened yet but i decided not to worry to put in gods hands and when he fit for us to have that baby then he will bless us in the mean time you can worry yourself over your lose i know its hard but you also have to think about if your still tryint ot concieve that added stress is not gonna help you along so when you get every morning or when ever you have time through out the day try meditating for about 30 mins or so let your mind relax and be at ease eveything is gonna be ok girl its just gonna take some time dont let this set back bring you down keep your head up smile it will get better keep me posted on your progress ill be glad to give you all the helpful advice
i can !!!!!
I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU ARE FEELING AND MY BABY GIRL DIED 3 DAYS AFTER BIRTH MAY 6 2006 AND I STILL FEEL AS BAD AS I DID WHEN SHE DIED IM JUST A GOOD HIDER I HIDE ALL MY FEELINGS CAUSE IF I DONT I WOULD BE A BASKET CASE THIS TORE ME AND THE FATHER APART WE JUST COULD NOT TALK ABOUT IT WE ARE NOW TRYING TO MAKE IT WORK AND ARE TRYING TO GET PREGNANT AND I HAVE MIXED FEELINGS ABOUT THAT TO THE PAIN WILL NEVER LEAVE BUT IT GETS EASIER TO DEAL WITH AS DAYS GO BY DONT LISTEN TO PEOPLE WHO SAY JUST GET OVER IT CAUSE YOU WILL GET THAT FROM THOSE WHO DONT UNDERSTAND IF YOU HAVE TO CRY BY YOUR SELF DO SO CAUSE TO EVERY ONE ELSE YOUR JUST LOSING IT IM NOT SAYING IT IS THE BEST WAY TO DEAL WITH THIS BUT IT WAS THE ONLY WAY I COULD LIVE AND NOT HAVE PEOPLE QUESTION IF I SHOULD GO INTO A MENTAL WARD PLEASE DONT LET IT COME BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND TALK ABOUT IT AND IF HE FINDS IT HARD TO TALK ABOUT AS A LOT OF MEN HAVE THIS PROBLEM THEN DONT PRESSURE HIM FIND SOMEONE ELSE YOU CAN TALK TO THAT KNOWS WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH I HOPE YOU HAVE IT EASIER THEN I DID AND STILL DO
Hi, i completely understand what you are saying. I miscarried in march and i still feel very raw about it all, i am working with three girls who are all pregnant at the moment they are all leaving by september so i know what you are going through. I am hoping that once my due date has passed i may be able to have some closure on it. Apart from that i can't really give you any advice on how long it will take to get over it, every day is different for me, at the beginning of the week i was in tears every day but now i'm ok.
Its very hard as every one around you thinks that you should be over it by now which makes me think i should too.
I too have been told by a friend perhaps i should see some one about it, but at the end of the day it's not going to change what happened and make thing better. I'm sorry i have been a bit negative but i do truely hope that you can get through this all the best.
Lou x
i know this is like a while after u posted but i just went through the same thing only i was three months pregnant, i was devistated, also all the women in my office are pregnant right now and my bfs sister and i were only 1 day apart with our due dates, this would have been my second child, and i feel completely empty now that the baby is gone, i had a d&c done on friday than got seriously sick over the weekend and ended up hospitalized mon-wed and had to have another d&c done, i just wanted u to know that miscarriage is a very common thing, the more people i talk to the more i hear that its happened to other people who went on to have successfull pregancies after it, you gotta just be strong and try again when your body and your mind can handle it, eventually it will work out for you, u just have to have an open mind and a positive outlook on life, its never going to be too late to try and eventually your miracle will happen, were waiting awhile right now, i dont think i could handle it right now, i need to get my body in tip top shape and let everyone else become unpregnant, lol, too much going on right now, when its our time itll be our time, just think of it as , and i know this sounds terrible and i dont mean it in a bad way, but something didnt line up right when that baby was created and god forbid it had made it outside the womb and couldnt survive, they dont know why these things happen to us, and that doesnt make me feel any better, but there is hope, my pregnancy only had a 5% chance of not continuing and somehow my baby fell into that 5%, good luck to you and your husband i hope things work out well for you =)
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