bf said he was bored through the delivery

**lizzardb63** · 10-25-2011 02:47 PM

It's because it's unusual, rosekitten, to be bored during such a life changing and moving event. Also- its sort of common sense that this is going to upset the mother who went through a extremely BIG physical change and went through something that you cant come back from...when you say "I was bored"... umm...hello...BE A LITTLE MORE SENSITIVE! It's not because it;s not "normal" it's because it was a jerk thing to say.

**rosekitten** · 10-25-2011 03:08 PM

So... who defines what "normal" emotional responses are? I'm curious, really, I am. Not everyone feels emotions the same way. While I do agree that he shouldn't have said anything, it's not because it's rude, but because of the reaction most women would have to it. It's smart (unfortunately) to pretend to have feelings, or to hide thoughts, from those you love if you know they can't accept you as you are.

**miss.nedra** · 10-25-2011 03:33 PM

im not saying his feelings aren't normal, i was just curious if my reaction to his statement was normal.

**rosekitten** · 10-26-2011 01:19 AM

Oh, your reaction is actually quite normal, and to be expected. My point was that it doesn't invalidate his feelings in the process. Feel what you need to feel, but if he is a good father, why dwell on it?

**Little** · 10-26-2011 08:19 AM

I think the idea of being "bored" during the delivery indicates a lack of paternal feelings on his part, which is why I find it so rude and uncalled-for. While the mother of your child is trying to birth that child, a feat which kills some women, it seems out of line to be "bored."

**LanaBear** · 10-26-2011 10:27 AM

I don't know... Honestly, I could seriously see how he was bored. Heck, I was bored during my first delivery. I never asked my husband but I sure wouldn't be offended if he was bored, lol. I was in labor for 14 long hours in which I slept probably over half of them. After the initial excitement of my water breaking and getting to the hospital, it was a long wait and then I ended up with an emergency c-section. So, the action picked up again.

Yeah, it's fine to have a reaction to him feeling that way, but it should be based on what you feel. You shouldn't need any of us here telling you that yes it is okay or no it isn't. Feel how you feel, there is nothing wrong with that. Both, you and him, are only human.