16 and pregnant
Ok I'm 16 and pregnant, junior in highschool. I don't want to keep the baby no matter how attached i am. It just wont fit into my life right now so my abortion is at 8:45 to 4pm on this friday. its 1:43 am right now. I named him/her Casey. I thought it'd be nice to name my angel. I cry a lot because i know its bad but keeping or adoption is not an option so dont post if you dont respect my views please.
I am really afraid because I barely found out I am pregnant. I can be anywhere from 12-20 weeks pregnant. I am ALMOST positive my last period was at end of july and i had morning sickness for a week (i thought it was just a cold) in the middle of august. in my state they wont do abortions after 18 weeks. The first thing at my appt. is them checking for how many weeks I am. I'm really scared and just need to talk with someone. This was unplanned and will NEVER happen again. I'm really scared that ill be over 18 weeks and my life will be officially ruined, same with my boyfriends life. If i am under 18 weeks im really scared to be alone in the room with a nurse and doctor with my pants off... I know the operation only lasts maybe 10 minutes and ill be on nitrus oxide (i think thats it, anyways laughing gas im talking about) My mother is going with me but cant be in the back room with me. I'm just really scared. Oh and I keep feeling like this.. movement inside me, its not really a kick idk what it is. I havent really gained any weight, maybe 2lbs from the baby not even. Can someone help with how many weeks i am to just reassure my thoughts and tell me what the movement is?
i guezz if the bby is moving it wants u too keep him or her u noe but you do what u want to do i am also 16 and was hoping i was pregnant but when i found out i wasnt it broke my n my boyfriends heart because we got to excited about the whole thing..but girl if u think u are doing the right thing then do it just try no to look bck and immagion your baby good luck! but if u are over 18 weeks a baby is a blessing
Last edited by gigglez13; 10-27-2011 at 11:59 PM.
If you don't mind me asking why would you want a baby at 16? I don't know what ill do if im over 18 weeks. I KNOW i cant have this baby, I know abortion is the right thing for me but.. i'm just so scared to find out if im over or under 18 weeks. If im over i dont think i could give Casey up for adoption after carring for him/her for 9 months.. Are you and your boyfriend going to continue and try for a baby?Originally Posted by gigglez13
If you KNOW that having a baby isn't the right thing for you at this stage of your life, you should also stop to think for a moment that it would also be wrong for this baby to be raised by someone who is not ready for them, considers them a "ruin" to their life, etc. If you are over 18 weeks and must carry this baby to term, tell yourself every day that it's the least you can do for this little person. Help them to grow and survive so that when it's their time to be born, they can be given to a family that so DESPARATELY wants them. Growing attached to a baby you're carrying inside you is a given. It will happen. But if you truly want what's best for your baby, be selfless.....don't keep a child just because you feel attached when you know there is a family out there who would give anything in the world to love that little baby and give it the life it deserves.
Hang in there. You seem pretty mature for your age and willing to step up to the plate for your mistakes. I hope your boyfriend is too. Let us know how things turn out for you.
"Be what you're looking for."
"The next time you're thinking of kicking someone when they're down, offer them your hand and help them back up instead."
we want a baby becasue idk it felt rigth he has a job i have a job we both have really good lifes n we just want a baby. Yet we both need our education adn we know our families are not willing to help out if i got pregnant. No we are not going to keep trying to have a baby we are going to wait until we both have a carrer. To raise the baby in a good place. Yes you can get attach but you have to think what is good for the baby not just you. If u are over 18 weeks pregnant then i wish you lunck and the least you can do for the baby is adoption or keep it. Umm if i may ask does the father of the child agree with your decion?gud luck keep ur head up!
Couldn't agree more with Beautiful Disaster. If you are over 18 weeks...serve your purpose. Carry that baby and give it its temporary home until a family who BD stated DESPERATELY wants a child of their own (Who perhaps have tried and tried and tried, but can't conceive). Everything happens for a reason and you just have to do your best with what you're given. You sound like you've got a head on your shoulders and understand the responsibility of a baby. If you feel that you cannot provide for a baby or that it is just not the right timing, then adoption would be your best option. It sounds like you have your mothers support, has she said anything to you about adoption or keeping the baby?
~Today, any person can fight the battles of one day It is only when you and I add the burdens of those two awful eternity's- yesterday and tomorrow, that we break down. It is not the experience of today that drives people mad. It is the remorse of bitterness for something which happened yesterday and the dread of what tomorrow may bring.
Let us therefore, live but one day at a time.~
I think what you are "feeling" is the baby quickening. That is the term put on initial self-movement of the fetus.
citation following to Wikipedia:
It may feel like gas, tapping or fluttering or hunger pangs.
A woman’s uterine muscles, rather than her abdominal muscles, are first to sense fetal motion. Therefore, a woman’s body weight usually does not have a substantial effect on when movements are initially perceived. Women who have already given birth have more relaxed uterine muscles that are consequently more sensitive to fetal motion, and for them fetal motion can sometimes be felt as early as 14 weeks.[3]
Usually, quickening occurs naturally at about the middle of a pregnancy. A woman pregnant for the first time (i.e. a primigrava woman) typically feels fetal movements at about 18-20 weeks, whereas a woman who has already given birth at least twice (i.e. a multipara woman) will typically feel movements around 15-17 weeks.[4]
Whatever the outcome is make sure you have the best interests of the child at heart and not limit it to yourself, your Mother or your boyfriend.
I know that at 16 it may seem insurmountable to carry the baby to full term, but you could make some persons that are ready to be parents but can't have one of their own, very very happy. I know this for a fact because my daughter would desperately love to have a child but is not able to have any of her own. She'd be a wonderful Mother and her husband would be a wonderful Dad.
However, the choice is yours and whatever you decide is not done lightly I'm sure.
I'm over 18 weeks people. I turns out i'm 23.4 weeks. ill be 24 weeks on monday. I could still get an abortion at this state I found one that would actually do it. I wont do it though. They give the baby a shot an give them a heart attack until they die and then i actually give birth to the dead baby. I wont do that. My mother is supportive and would help with the baby until im old enough to do it on my own with my boyfriend if he is still there. I dont like his family because they are not caring people so the baby will be under my name. his family doesnt know. its gonna be kept a secret from them. they are abusive non-caring drunks. i dont want my baby in that environment. i have well then enough home space and money and good people to help raise my baby. we arent poor in any manor so if i do keep it there will be no problem. I dont want to share my baby with his family and have to miss some birthdays or christmas' with him or her. is that wrong? is it wrong to not want my kid in that environment? also it is right to have a feeling that this is soooo unreal at the moment?
Honey, I think you went from being scared, realisation of your age, to acceptance and protectiveness of your child.
I am glad at 24 weeks, you don't want to go through with that, I wouldn't either, how horrible..
You are lucky, you have all the support and love that you need and you obviously also have a lot of love in your heart as you are, as I said, already protective of this child...
Having said that... If another motivation vis for you not to miss birthdays or christmas, I don't see why you have to if you are suggesting that your boyfriend is aware... You two can talk about that environment and the decisions in that regard I guess you are frightened if he doesn't stick around and claims rights to the baby...That's hard too because the child is both of yours.... I am glad that you are putting your last name to the child ...
Off course it is right to feel that this is sooo unreal...but I know as each week goes by now, it will be real and it will feel right, and you will look forward to holding and seeing this little one...
Your last post wasn't angry it was acceptance, so part of you all the way, didn't want to go through with abortion....
It's okay, you have all your family and you have us...
You'll get through it fine.
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
Hi!
Just wondering how it's going for you? It sounds like you have made a good decision to give your child life. I ADMIRE any woman who loves her child enough to do that!!! Please keep us up to date on what's going on in your world.
With care,
~Judi
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