possibly pregnant, unmarried, and parents will flip!!!

**dlovely** · 01-03-2012 07:41 PM

Hi okay..so let me explain from the start. I have been with my b/f for 6 years. My parents recently bought us a house about 7 months ago. Recently my bf has been talking about getting engaged and married

bc he wants to start a family. Well recently we had sex and in the heat of the moment, we didnt use anything. He is excited and thrilled at the possiblity of being a father. I, however am on the fence. I am about to be 25, I love kids...and have always wanted a family of my own. but i come from a very tradional family. They have even voiced to me in the past that they would like me to be married before i have kids. and ive also voiced to him that i'd rather be married before i have children. well...now i dont know if im pregnant or not if i am, im only 3 weeks...so i cant take a test until around next week, but i am petrified...How will i tell my parents, they are going to flip out...My bf comes from a different family...his parents were never married, and it wouldnt be hard to tell them bc they are more accepting...

im just so stressed.....i wish i would have used better judgment ..

**jns** · 01-03-2012 07:56 PM

There is an old saying that "the first baby can come anytime, after that it takes 9 months". Your parents may grumble about it at the beginning, but they will warm to the idea quickly. One thing to decide is whether to get married before the baby is born. Of course that is contingent on you being pregnant.

**irish angel** · 01-04-2012 09:17 AM

Are you guys living in the house that your parents bought you? If you are they have to know that there is a chance you could become preganant

**Beautiful Disaster** · 01-04-2012 09:37 AM

Sure...most parents would prefer their kiddos be married before giving them grandbabies. But few grandparents ever turn away their grandbabies just because they were born or created out of wedlock. And, if your parents were super duper traditional they wouldn't have bought a house for you two to live together out of wedlock. Soooo....you're probably making a MUCH bigger deal of this than you should in that regard.

If you're prego, it's you that is pregnant. It's you and your fella that would be bringing a life into the world. What can your parents do? Ground you? No.

There's a chance they'd be surprised and a tad disappointed, but I assure you they'd get past it quickly. I mean, you're living together for goodness sakes. The only thing you're lacking is a legal document that says "MARRIED!".

With all that said....calm down girlfriend....you don't even know if you're pregnant. You're probably not. But if you are, you'll bring a baby into this world with a man who loves you and is excited to be a dad and with a house that your parents bought you all. Worse things could happen.

**dlovely** · 01-08-2012 05:04 PM

Thank you to all who replied! ...You guys are right...they bought us a house..so there had to be some point in doing so that they though this could be a possibility...we are getting engaged...well he already has the ring...and my parents know and approve...so hopefully this will not be as big of a thing if I am pregnant...We'll see..wish me luck :-\ i appreciate everything u guys have said bc it did make me feel better...thank you so much