Thread: wanting a baby but cant have one

Originally Posted by zigglyloves

not sure if any of you have been to the doctor and been told you cant have a baby . its the worst feeling a woman can have and now im 42 and im still not a mother is this what god had planed for me i cry all the time . i would adopt but no one out there would have a baby and let me have . just my two cents in this ,. if your going to have a baby be happy there are some of us that can never have one .

Im really sorry that you cant have a baby. I have a cousin who is in your position also, shes planning to adopt in the near future, you can do that too, find a good agency and start the process.

Please consider taking in a foster child. In most communities there are children who desperately need a loving safe home. My wife and I were in the same situation, so we volunteered as foster (shelter care) parents, took in a wonderful little 5 year old girl.

But - also be prepared for it not to work out the way you expect. I had never really wanted children, but devoted all my free time (and some of my work time) to caring for the little girl - I took her to the playground, and to the zoo. She would ride around on my shoulders - she called me "dad'.

My wife, who had desperately wanted children for the past 5 years, but couldn't have any discovered that the reality of having a child in the house was nothing like the fantasy. She developed a strong dislike for the girl, and I found I couldn't leave them together without an explosion. When the girl left our home, my wife was tremendously relieved - and now wouldn't consider the idea of adopting. For me - well not a day goes by that I don't think about that girl. And sometimes I think of what would have happened if we had managed to have our own child.

the doc told my sister for over 12 yrs she could not get pregnant. she is now 12 weeks preg and doing fine. whats the reason you cant get preg?

Originally Posted by zigglyloves

not sure if any of you have been to the doctor and been told you cant have a baby . its the worst feeling a woman can have and now im 42 and im still not a mother is this what god had planed for me i cry all the time . i would adopt but no one out there would have a baby and let me have . just my two cents in this ,. if your going to have a baby be happy there are some of us that can never have one .

Yeah, can you give us more info on why you can't have a baby. There is so much medical information on this nowadays. Are you ovulating, still have a uterus? What?!